My secretary is lovely and helpful and wonderful. I share her with 3 colleagues. She has never been well off, and her husband was injured at work over the summer, so they are currently fighting with workers comp to try to get some of his salary.
It is her birthday today. My colleagues decided that we should go in together on some flowers, a card, and for a gift. . . . .$100 per person cash. I don't even spend that much money on close family members and friends for birthday gifts. Not to mention, we are renovating a new house and have a lot of expenses right now.
I politely explained that I simply can't contribute that much. One colleague said just to put whatever I'm comfortable with in the envelope. Great. . . now when she opens her card and sees $320, I'll feel like an asshole. I don't even want to be here when they give it to her!!