Wedding Party

browndog17

So I have a dilemma that I just want some opinions on. I have 5 bridesmaids and my 2 cousins will be ring bearers. I'm really close to my cousins on my mom's side and would like to include them all in some way. My idea is for my 13 year old mini me cousin to be a Jr. Bridesmaid, my 2 cousins closer to my age be personal attendants, and my 16 year old cousin to be an usher. I just need opinions from other brides because everyone I know says "it's your day" which is fine but I'd like a little more lol. Thanks in advance.

AddieCake

browndog17 said:

So I have a dilemma that I just want some opinions on. I have 5 bridesmaids and my 2 cousins will be ring bearers. I'm really close to my cousins on my mom's side and would like to include them all in some way. My idea is for my 13 year old mini me cousin to be a Jr. Bridesmaid, my 2 cousins closer to my age be personal attendants, and my 16 year old cousin to be an usher. I just need opinions from other brides because everyone I know says "it's your day" which is fine but I'd like a little more lol. Thanks in advance.

"Junior" bridesmaids are not necessary. If you want her to be in the wedding party, she should be a bridesmaid like any other. Personal attendants are the kind of thing you pay people to be; they are not roles of honor in a wedding party. Ushers are fine. 

ei34

browndog17 said:

So I have a dilemma that I just want some opinions on. I have 5 bridesmaids and my 2 cousins will be ring bearers. I'm really close to my cousins on my mom's side and would like to include them all in some way. My idea is for my 13 year old mini me cousin to be a Jr. Bridesmaid, my 2 cousins closer to my age be personal attendants, and my 16 year old cousin to be an usher. I just need opinions from other brides because everyone I know says "it's your day" which is fine but I'd like a little more lol. Thanks in advance.

If you're really close to them make them BMs.  Or see if they'd like to do a reading at your ceremony.  A junior BM is the same as a BM, since the official duties for either is to wear the agreed upon attire, walk down the aisle and smile for photos.  And ditto Addie personal attendant is a paid position.  If someone wanted me to be be an errand girl I'd be more put out than honored.

STARMOON44

Why would anyone want to be a servant for the day? 

browndog17

Okay so everything except my usher is a bad idea.

STARMOON44

browndog17 said:

Okay so everything except my usher is a bad idea.

You could also ask them to do a reading. 

browndog17

I don't think I have enough readings. I just want everyone to feel included. But maybe I should just have the 2 boys be ring bearers and ask the other 4? To be ushers of sorts.

STARMOON44

browndog17 said:

I don't think I have enough readings. I just want everyone to feel included. But maybe I should just have the 2 boys be ring bearers and ask the other 4? To be ushers of sorts.

Or just invite them as guests and include them by making a point of spending time with them? They don't need jobs to know you love them. You could take them out for a cousins lunch the day before maybe?

but asking them be ushers works too!

CMGragain

Inviting guests to your wedding IS honoring them.  This makes them "included".  You don't need to do anything more.

browndog17

Oh I love the idea of a cousins lunch! Thank you:)

AddieCake

Don't have anyone be "ushers of sorts."  What is "of sorts"? That makes it clear you don't actually need them and are just making up random roles or jobs for them.

browndog17

I just added that out of habit of saying it alot.

LadyCatherineDB

You could also honor them with corsages or boutonnieres.

knottiej

Just invite them as guests. 

MyNameIsNot

Why don't you want them to be bridesmaids?