Tuesday

bleve0821

Morning, WW.  DH and I are back (physically) from our much-overdue long weekend.  Thanks to @charlotte989875 for the Nantahala Brewing Co. rec.  DH LOVED it.  We sampled pretty much everything they had on tap, and got a couple of 6-packs to take home with us.  The cabin was pretty awesome (minus the serious carpenter bee infestation they had).  We enjoyed the hot tub and the spectacular views.  Saturday, DH watched the draft while I sat on the porch and read book after book and dodged the sawdust sprinkling down from the aforementioned bees.  It was (for the most part) relaxing (excepting those times when an errant bee decided to smack into my face).  Sunday, our anniversary, we went white water rafting, which was a total blast.  The river was high, the weather was perfect.  We decided that next year we'll go spelunking for our anniversary (because why not?).  It rained yesterday in the Smokies, so instead of the hiking we wanted to do, we got a head start on the drive home (boo) and watched Alien and Aliens.

Now, I'm back at work and I'm struggling to want to be here.  Adulting is significantly less fun post-vacation.  But at least the deer didn't get into the vegetable garden while we were away!

levioosa

@atomicblonde I am seriously jealous of all of that. Minus the bees. 

Today I'll be fighting with the pharmacy AGAIN over my BCP/insurance.  We are so archaic with BCP. Like, I can buy it over the counter now for $55 (still ridiculous) but insurance only covers it if I have a prescription (and then it's $5). Why can't insurance just fucking cover it with or without a prescription? Jfc. And I know that it was the pharmacy that fucked up the prescription transcription because it says "expired--9 refills left." Why the fuck would a doctor write a monthly prescription with 12 refills starting Jan/Feb and then have it expire 4/30? But trying to talk to the pharmacy people is like talking to a brick wall. Plus I'm now too poor to buy the out of pocket bcp. 

Today I'm cleaning the house and probably going to go shopping. SO might have his game night here tonight, which is why I'm cleaning today and not tomorrow. Boo. Yesterday I ended up going through cabinets and cleaning out the fridge with some other stuff, so the day wasn't as veg'd out as I wanted it to be, but at least I didn't have to talk to anyone. This introvert needs to recharge. 

6fsn

Glad you hada great weekend!

Its rainy and the kids are being whiny. Phone lines are down for work and my computer is being a beast. I just eat to go to bed.

Soccer coach threw in a last minute tournament. Next weekend we have 3 soccer games, 2 baseball games, and 1 lacrosse game. Blergh.

I'm chopping my hair Saturday and I'm unusually excited for it. 

MissKittyDanger

@atomicblonde  sounds like a great vaca minus the bees


Yesterday ended up leaving early. Idk if something didn't sit well with my stomach but every time I moved, I felt like I'd be sick. Every time I'd cough, I was nearly sick.
So I called M to pick me up, got gravol and basically went to bed.

M and my mum don't think my stuffiness is allergies, they both think it's a bit of a virus.
Uhm ... better not be. Might be just stress/anxiety about the job sitch with M - which he still hasn't heard back yet.

Hopefully the ribs are still good, yesterday was pouring and I was sick so we didn't make them. Today is suppose to rain, but not nearly as much so M will be good to BBQ.

charlotte989875

Glad you liked it @atomicblonde!

Got emailed for a second interview! Which will be either tomorrow or Thursday (will know at the end of the day). There interviewing three candidates, so my odds are good. 

VarunaTT

I'm stalking my Pride e-mail account b/c I think I figured out a great new thing, I just need this vendor to e-mail me back.  I might be able to bring him a huge account actually, so they need to get on board really fast.

Other than that, SSDD.

sparklepants41

@atomicblonde that vacation sounds awesome! Except for the bees. 

@levioosa what a hassle! Can you call your doctor and explain the pharmacy's mistake? I'm sure this sort of thing happens a lot, so your doctor should understand. $55 is way too much for BCP!!

Today it's rainy and overcast again. My workload just increased immensely because my boss cannot delegate. So I am on three simultaneous deadlines - all of which are high priority. And one of my teammates is only working on one minor deadline. Sometimes there is a reason why I get staffed on deadlines instead of my teammate, but I physically cannot give 100% of myself to each of these pursuits, so I am going to talk to my boss about delegating one of them to this particular teammate. 

levioosa

@sparklepants41 I called yesterday and asked them if they could send it over again, but as of last night the prescription was still expired. =/

sparklepants41

@levioosa ugh!!! That really sucks! Fingers crossed it gets straightened out by this afternoon!

NiceKindaSpice

I'm so happy to hear that you finally got a break, @atomicblonde! 
Yay, my theknot account is working again! I've been having so much trouble with it, jeesh! 

@levioosa Oh geez, that pharmacy sounds like they have great customer service! /S

I can't believe there are <100 days left until I'm married?! I feel like I need to have more to do, I dunno. I can feel the panic at bay.
Our holy month is approaching (end of May) so I'm trying to distract myself with that. Part of me is so excited but the other part of me just keeps thinking that it's my last time unmarried and that our wedding is soon after. I don't even know. My thoughts are a mess and the jitters are worsening. 

MissKittyDanger

@charlotte989875

MissKittyDanger

NiceKindaSpice said:

I'm so happy to hear that you finally got a break, @atomicblonde! 
Yay, my theknot account is working again! I've been having so much trouble with it, jeesh! 

@levioosa Oh geez, that pharmacy sounds like they have great customer service! /S

I can't believe there are <100 days left until I'm married?! I feel like I need to have more to do, I dunno. I can feel the panic at bay.
Our holy month is approaching (end of May) so I'm trying to distract myself with that. Part of me is so excited but the other part of me just keeps thinking that it's my last time unmarried and that our wedding is soon after. I don't even know. My thoughts are a mess and the jitters are worsening. 

I felt the same way.
Honestly, just start making lists of everything that is left - even stupid things like "pack over night bag" if you're going to a hotel or anywhere after. {actually, pack some extra clothes anyways in case you wanna change!}

missJeanLouise

@atomicblonde that vacation sounds amazing!! Glad you and your DH were able to get away. I love whitewater rafting, I would do it all the time if I could.

@levioosa BC in the states is so fucked up. You don't even need a prescription here (technically I think you are supposed to have one but the pharmacy will just give it to you in most circumstances). I walked in to a clinic to ask a question about getting birth control and walked out 20 minutes later with a prescription, which they gave me 3 months worth at the time. 

I felt almost ill yesterday; exhausted, a little nauseous, headache but I got a massage an it helped so much. (I haven't actually been sick in years and no one I know has been sick so I wasn't worried about getting anyone actually sick.) I think I just slept like shit and drank too much coffee to compansate but all it did was upset my stomach and give me a headache. I slept much better last night and had a very productive day of housework. Now DH and I are going to the shooting range with friends, including 3 people who have never shot a gym before. It sounds so weird as an American but they all come from gun free countries. Blows my mind.

kimmiinthemitten

Glad you had a great time and were able to relax @atomicblonde!

@charlotte989875 fingers crossed for you!

@levioosa that is so damn irritating.  Why isn't it covered 100% under the ACA though?

Today is SSDD.  I bought my mom a new Iphone 7 Plus because the ebates deal was fantastic, but I missed the fine print that it's only for new customers so there goes the $187.00 I expected back.  And I hate Sprint, I would  have switched had I realized that.

We emailed the rescue to see if they would consider us even though we can't take custody of the pup before June 20th and they said no.  So then I emailed back with a few more questions about why she was turned over etc.  We want to know more about her and see if maybe the foster family would be available to dog sit the two weekends we're out of town if we do decide to apply/take her early - but they're not responding so I feel like they've written me off.

short+sassy

@atomicblonde, I'm glad your vacation was so fun!

@charlotte989875, congrats on the second interview!  Good luck.

It's a busy week this week at work, with end of month reports.  That should hopefully keep me out of trouble.  My boss has been screaming at people today, so I hope he just leaves me alone.  Trying to stay under the radar, but I do have to send him an e-mail later.  Nothing bad, but still...meh.

My H told me this morning he is going to BBQ up some hamburgers for dinner tonight, so I'm hoping that comes to fruition.  We have some avocado we need to use up anyway and those are great on burgers.

mrsconn23

Yesterday turned into a shitty ass day.  We'll be OK, but man life comes at you in the weirdest ways sometimes.  Also, I thank God for my good friends because I'd lose my shit without them.  

Other than that, SSDD. 

MissKittyDanger

Slight update:
M heard from recruiter.
Basically today or tomorrow the offer should come in It would have been sooner but the CEO was away for the weekend and didn't get in until late yesterday.

sparklepants41

@charlotte989875 good luck!!!

@MissKittyDanger good luck to M!!

NiceKindaSpice

Thanks, @MissKittyDanger. Best of luck to M!
Good luck @charlotte989875!!!!!

MissKittyDanger

HE GOT THE JOB
HE GOT THE JOB
HE GOT THE JOB
HE GOT THE JOB

!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

DrillSergeantCat

I had a talk with H about how I was feeling re: the ex. I just needed reassurance that he doesn't feel the way the ex did. I tried talking to my brother but he kept telling me that I should be happy my ex is doing well because I am doing well. He's usually the more emotionally adept one of us so I was surprised he wasn't picking up what I was laying down. It's just hard to see H working so hard and so much of his money going to bills where 2 years ago, it was all his except utilities. He reminded me that even though he has more bills today than when we met, he's actually better off financially because he got mixed up in payday loans. He said I gave him purpose. 

I have another interview today. I know the right opportunity is coming, but I'm anxious because our mortgage is about to go up around $400 a month. 

charlotte989875

Remember @DrillSergeantCat you have more bills now together, but you also have two beautiful babies. I struggle with feeling like I ruined H's life (he's moved two for me for jobs), but that's my feelings/worry/insecurity not his actual feelings. It's hard to keep it in perspective sometimes. 

MissKittyDanger

DrillSergeantCat said:

I had a talk with H about how I was feeling re: the ex. I just needed reassurance that he doesn't feel the way the ex did. I tried talking to my brother but he kept telling me that I should be happy my ex is doing well because I am doing well. He's usually the more emotionally adept one of us so I was surprised he wasn't picking up what I was laying down. It's just hard to see H working so hard and so much of his money going to bills where 2 years ago, it was all his except utilities. He reminded me that even though he has more bills today than when we met, he's actually better off financially because he got mixed up in payday loans. He said I gave him purpose. 

I have another interview today. I know the right opportunity is coming, but I'm anxious because our mortgage is about to go up around $400 a month. 

TBH despite how things ended with his ex, I often think M was better with his ex because she was outdoorsy, etc. I often request confirmation he's happy with me. I feel it's kind of normal.

But your H said you give him purpose. You 2 also created beautiful kids together.

bleve0821

charlotte989875 said:

Remember @DrillSergeantCat you have more bills now together, but you also have two beautiful babies. I struggle with feeling like I ruined H's life (he's moved two for me for jobs), but that's my feelings/worry/insecurity not his actual feelings. It's hard to keep it in perspective sometimes. 

DH has moved 3 times for me in the last two years.  He's left two jobs he loves, has the commute from hell, we're about as far as we can get from family and friends, both geographically and in some cases emotionally, and I constantly worry about the level of resentment he feels for all these changes/sacrifices he's made for me.  The reality is that he has zero resentment or negative feelings, and it's just me worrying about nothing.  But it often doesn't feel like nothing.

I agree that it is about perspective, but I also think it's an indication of just how much we love our partners, and how much they love us:  for them to make those changes and/or sacrifices for our families, and for us to have these worries about their happiness in light of the changes.  I think it's when we lose that awareness that the feelings start to become reality.

DrillSergeantCat

Rationally, I knew how he felt and what he'd say, but hearing "I'd be happier/wealthier/etc without you" for 18 years messes with your head and makes it hard to find the perspective.

kimmiinthemitten

DrillSergeantCat said:

Rationally, I knew how he felt and what he'd say, but hearing "I'd be happier/wealthier/etc without you" for 18 years messes with your head and makes it hard to find the perspective.

And that's why he's an ex. This a boy bye situation if I've ever heard of one. 

@misskittydanger *insertdancinggif*

@mrsconn23 (hugs)

levioosa

@kimmiinthemitten my bad. It was $5 for years and now it's free. One of my other prescriptions I pick up regularly is $5 though and I was so irritated this morning I forgot. I still forget when I pick them up too. I always have $10 in hand and then I'm surprised when it's only five. 

Good news though, they finally are refilling it! 

sparklepants41

@MissKittyDanger Hooray!!!!

MissKittyDanger

kimmiinthemitten said:

DrillSergeantCat said:

Rationally, I knew how he felt and what he'd say, but hearing "I'd be happier/wealthier/etc without you" for 18 years messes with your head and makes it hard to find the perspective.

And that's why he's an ex. This a boy bye situation if I've ever heard of one. 

@misskittydanger *insertdancinggif*

@mrsconn23 (hugs)

so much this! @DrillSergeantCat andplusalso are you happier with your H than you were with your ex? I'm sure your H is happier with you

CharmedPam

@atomicblonde, that sounds like so much fun!
@Misskittydanger, so happy for you guys.  You need to celebrate! 

@levioosa,  ugh. I hate our rx program. When I got on DH's program, I didn't know I needed an rx card for the prescriptions so I went to pay and they're like "yeah we need this card".  I didn't have it. But I was SICK as a dog, and they said that it can be re-billed later once they got the card.  So I bought it out of pocket, went on vacation....came back 11 days later with the card.  Oh yeah.  They only re-bill like 7 days after or something.  Would have been nice to know.

MissKittyDanger

@CharmedPam we will once he's paid lol