Toddler Flower Girl and Ringer Bearer Proposal Gifts?

knottiec0184f9d534d07cd

I am planning on asking my niece (who is 1.5 years old) and my fiance's niece & nephew twins (who are just over 2 years old) to be our flower girls and ring bearer. I would like a cute proposal gift idea - I found an adorable necklace I loved but think the girls are too young for that probably. Any thoughts?

OurWildKingdom

What do they like? Ask their parents if you're not sure. My niece loved Minnie Mouse and my nephew loved Snoopy.

Jen4948

As far as giving them gifts goes, what would you give them for other occasions?

What exactly do you plan for infants and toddlers to do as flower girls and ring bearer? Are those just titles? 

ILoveBeachMusic

I don't think these types of gifts are necessary - especially since the children are so young and won't remember your wedding. A gift as a thank you for being in the wedding is appropriate. Like other PP said get them something that they would enjoy. I also think a necklace as a keepsake is fine. As a 4 year old, I was given a sterling locket as a flower girl gift. I wore it often as a child and still have it. My daughter wore it when she was little.

redoryx

I'm assuming the parents know your plan, yes? I'd just hate for you to put all this effort into the "proposal" only to have the parents not want them to participate for whatever reason. 

ei34

Is your wedding in a few years?  My kids are toddlers and there's no way they could handle being FG and RB now.  I dislike proposal ideas (what if the person feels put on the spot/wants to decline?) but bc we're talking about babies, I don't think they'd think anything other than "ooh a toy!".  

What are they into?  Paw Patrol?  Thomas the Train? Sesame Street?  Mickey and his crew?  Gifts based on interest are always good.  

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knottiec0184f9d534d07cd said:

I am planning on asking my niece (who is 1.5 years old) and my fiance's niece & nephew twins (who are just over 2 years old) to be our flower girls and ring bearer. I would like a cute proposal gift idea - I found an adorable necklace I loved but think the girls are too young for that probably. Any thoughts?

Proposing to your bridal party isn't a thing.  Just ask.  And because they're so young, you should really just ask their parents, with the understanding that they might say no, or the kid must just refuse to participate come the wedding day.

STARMOON44

Omg what on earth?!? WHY????? They can't even talk? Not like really. Like, this decision is not up to them. Ask their parents normally. 

MesmrEwe

1000% not necessary at that age.  Just talk with the parents, a greater gift would be their dress/suit at that age!  (the suit can be found for around $35 at Walmart or Target if you shop at the right time of year!  And really, at that age, you don't want them in something more expensive nor a rental)..  

MobKaz

knottiec0184f9d534d07cd said:

I am planning on asking my niece (who is 1.5 years old) and my fiance's niece & nephew twins (who are just over 2 years old) to be our flower girls and ring bearer. I would like a cute proposal gift idea - I found an adorable necklace I loved but think the girls are too young for that probably. Any thoughts?

You can't ask an 18 month old and even a 24 month old a question and expect to get an answer.  You cannot ask these babies a question regarding subject matter they cannot comprehend. 

You can check with their parents to see if they are amenable to the idea of being in your wedding party.  However, bear in mind that these little ones will then be required to be included at both the rehearsal dinner and wedding reception.

I'd get cookies or chew toys.

OurWildKingdom

MesmrEwe said:

1000% not necessary at that age.  Just talk with the parents, a greater gift would be their dress/suit at that age!  (the suit can be found for around $35 at Walmart or Target if you shop at the right time of year!  And really, at that age, you don't want them in something more expensive nor a rental)..  

This is a great idea. Just make sure you get sizes first.

CMGragain

These children are far too young to be in a wedding party.  Forget about this idea, and think of the children's feelings.  Children should not be used as cute props for your wedding.

Heffalump

How old will the kids be by the time of the wedding?  That would be the deciding factor, for me.  Three-ish can work, depending on the child's individual temperament.  My daughter was a flower girl twice shortly before she turned 3, and it was fine.  (Not perfect, by any means, but the B&Gs knew what they were getting into.  Both weddings have photos of her with her basket in one hand and her stuffed Dory in the other, because at the age she never put Dory down, even when she was asleep.  Stuff like that.) 

Also, not everyone wants a cheap suit.  If you do, cool, no shade.  I'm just saying, it's not universal.

southernbelle0915

Proposal gifts are not necessary. They don't even know what you're asking. I have a 1.5 year old and sometimes when i ask the same question twice in a row ("do you want a banana?") he will say yes and then he will say no. And that's a question he understands. A proposal question like "Would you be my ring bearer 8 months from now?" will get you a blank stare and a response like "cookie?"

Just ask the parents without a pinterest-y proposal. Make sure you tell them the time of the wedding (nap time/bed times matter for kids this age). My SIL wanted our 1.5 year old to be a ring bearer (when he's barely 2) for her 7:00 wedding. His bed time is 7.
 
traveled out 2 year old + after his bed time + itchy/heavy (but omg so cute!) suit + job he doesn't want to do + a million people staring at him + directions from basically strangers because mommy and daddy are in the wedding.... best case scenario - refusal, worst case scenario - total meltdown

DrillSergeantCat

MobKaz said:

You can't ask an 18 month old and even a 24 month old a question and expect to get an answer.  You cannot ask these babies a question regarding subject matter they cannot comprehend. 

You can check with their parents to see if they are amenable to the idea of being in your wedding party.  However, bear in mind that these little ones will then be required to be included at both the rehearsal dinner and wedding reception.

I'd get cookies or chew toys.

Well...not to brag, but if you asked Mouse that question, he'd answer you with who you really need to be talking to, "Dada." He's a bit precocious, though.