So I haven't been around here much lately because I've been crazy busy. Wedding is next week WOOO!! Anyway I wanted to snark and rant on one of my fiancés "friends" that he doesn't like but he felt obligated to invite. Just a disclaimer: I just felt like ranting and it is in no way affecting my excitement for this wedding.
I know we aren't supposed to dictate dress code and we are supposed to assume guests know how to dress for a wedding, so we didn't dictate anything. Guests would ask anyway, because it's common in our group to dictate dress code (even for birthday parties lol) and we told them it's recommended semi-formal, we told them what my fiancé is wearing, dress for a spring wedding, not overly formal, etc, and we mentioned on our website that there are many grassy areas to keep in mind (heels). So that was fine and dandy, people will dress however they dress.
My fiancé has a group of long time friends who always invites this one guy who is just a terrible person for many reasons, the only reason he's invited is because they don't want their group to split (some of his friends like him for whatever reason). So my fiancé folded and invited him to the wedding too. This is a guy who shows up to weddings 2 hours late (not kidding), and shows up in hoodies and jeans, which I get is his choice but joined with lateness is still pretty disrespectful of the occasion. My fiancés friends wanted to help him out by telling him that this is not the time to wear such casual clothing (or arrive late). So he said "I don't want to, I'm going to wear smart casual" whatever that is lol.
This is the kinda stuff I ignore because I know I won't notice it that day but this pissed off my fiancé because of his history with this guy. This guy only wants to go to the wedding if a friend picks him up from his doorstep (we live in NYC, many transit options). This guy was texting him asking which shoes he should wear, option 1: dress shoes, option 2: straight up sneakers. My fiancé said option 1 would be better and this guy said "nope I'm getting option 2, it has real leather" wtf. So my fiancé ignored him until he got another message where this guy found out he's not sitting with my fiancés best friends and says "if I'm sitting in that table I might as well not go to the wedding at all". I don't understand people sometimes. So he told him if it's so hard for him, then don't come at all. He's still coming.
P.S I know my fiancé made a dumb move by inviting someone he hates so much. How are you all this fine day?