Bachelorette Party Woes
My bridesmaids have planned my bachelorette party without including me. I understand that this is normal, but I have very bad anxiety, which worsens substantially in the face of surprises. Every time I think about the bachelorette party, I get physically ill. I do trust them and I'm sure it'll be fun, but I can't get it or of my head that it's going to be horrible. I know I'm being stupid, but really can't help it; anxiety doesn't typically listen to reason. I've tried to express my feelings and my concerns multiple times to my bridesmaids, making every effort to be as honest and upfront as possible, but they don't seem to care. I tried even asking what I should wear and got very minimal help. I don't know what to do. They say that the whole point of a bachelorette party is to be surprised, but I feel like the point of it is to celebrate with the bride in a way that she's comfortable with and will enjoy. I'm at the point that I don't even want to go because I feel like they don't care about how I feel. It's hard to feel so sick about it and have other people invalidate your feelings/tell you to get over it. Does anyone have any advice on how I should handle this?