To send an invite or not to send an invite???

AdirondackBride2236

I was planning on inviting a coworker/friend to my upcoming wedding, but she has already informed me that she is in the Bridal party of another wedding on the same day as mine (this wedding is 3 hours away). Should I still send her an invite?  I don't want to come off as just trying to get a gift by sending her an invite even though she definitely can't come.  However, I don't want to give off the impression that I no longer want her there or I'm upset with her for not being able to come. What do you think???

holyguacamole79

AdirondackBride2236 said:

I was planning on inviting a coworker/friend to my upcoming wedding, but she has already informed me that she is in the Bridal party of another wedding on the same day as mine (this wedding is 3 hours away). Should I still send her an invite?  I don't want to come off as just trying to get a gift by sending her an invite even though she definitely can't come.  However, I don't want to give off the impression that I no longer want her there or I'm upset with her for not being able to come. What do you think???

 I'd invite her.  Maybe include a handwritten note inside the invite saying,  "I know you have plans, but you're still on our list."

One of my friends got married the same day as my brother.  She still sent us an invite and we still sent a gift. 

charlotte989875

I'd still invite her. Crazy things happen and you'd want her to know she could still attend is she was suddenly free that day. 

OwningAHome1981

Send an invite. It's courteous. I know I always appreciate someone taking the time to think of me, even if they know I can't attend.

SP29

OwningAHome1981 said:

Send an invite. It's courteous. I know I always appreciate someone taking the time to think of me, even if they know I can't attend.

This. Lets her know you are still thinking of her.

southernbelle0915

Yes, still send it. It sounds like you've verbally invited her. Even if you know she can't go, it's proper etiquette to send the invite. 

Jen4948

Yes. Even if she can't actually attend, it lets her know that you are thinking of her in a positive way and that she would be a welcomed guest at your wedding.

MandTFebruary62011

Two of my very close friends live on the east coast.  When they got married, their fiance's sent me invitations to the shower.  Obviously, I wouldn't be able to go, but it felt lovely to be thought of and invited.

ahoywedding

Yes, send the invite! Things happen, plans change, and it also lets your friend know you're still thinking of her.