This post is probably not what you think! I am newly engaged and relatively new (a week or two) to these forums. Since there wasn't a lot of activity here (boy, do I wish there was!), I went to another site that has forums. I don't know where to start. I'm shell-shocked. The first poster said her mother is having an affair with a married man and wants to take him to the wedding as her plus 1. FB does NOT want him there, for obvious reasons. A LOT of people gave her a horrible time and said she was judgmental and she would be rude not to invite him ,etc. I put my 2 cents worth in and went to one more post before deciding it wasn't for me. In that post, a woman is having a CH wedding tomorrow. She wants to do a "vow renewal" next year complete with showers, wedding gown, the works. Just when I thought I couldn't take anymore, their resident Etiquette "advisor" told her to lie to people, to not tell them about the CH wedding, and have a big "do-over" wedding next year! When I posted, I was essentially attacked. Who do you think you are? Why do you get to decide? She can do whatever she wants, including lying to people, etc. Oh, did I mention we were in the ETIQUETTE forum? Ugh! I'm back!!! Anybody else ever feel like we are living in a crazy world where basically people are encouraged to do whatever they want as long as it feels good and it's what they want? Needed to vent. Thanks for listening!