We want an engagement party, but how?
We just moved to a new town not that long ago. We have made some new friends here, but no one super close yet. Therefore, I am guessing they may not feel comfortable throwing a pre-wedding/engagement party for us. Friends in our previous town live quite a long distance from us, so I'm sure they won't throw us one either. Both our families lives in other states. No one has asked us about this, or mentioned it, or hinted, or anything. We both have been married before and never had any pre-wedding party (no bridal shower, engagement, bachelor/bachelorette), though we both would like an engagement party. Here's what I'm wondering... I know it's improper etiquette to throw ourselves a party. We don't want gifts, aren't registered, and wouldn't ask for any. Just our friends' presence to celebrate with us is all we want. We are fine paying for a party ourselves. In this circumstance, is it still wrong to host a party to celebrate our engagement? We don't want a bridal shower or bach parties. Of course everyone that we invite would also be invited to our wedding. I don't feel right dropping hints or anything remotely along those lines... I won't ask someone to throw one for us. If it's still wrong, are we just out of luck for celebrating our engagement with friends or is there another option? We have been engaged for 2 months, so I know the clock is sort of ticking on this so it's not that odd engagement party several months later which can look sort of attention-grabby. Plus, I'd like to have it before winter hits so it doesn't hinder travel for friends out of town who want to attend. Thoughts?