My fiancee's brother's wife is someone we do not want at our wedding. She has done so much damage to the family and caused so much hurt. His brother stays with her because they have 3 children together and she has basically brainwashed him. No one in the family likes her. Most just pretend to her face. My fiancee and I, however, do not speak to her and don't even acknowledge her existence. I don't hate people, but I can truly say that I hate her with every ounce of my being. She is an evil human being and is manipulative and psycho. You all wouldn't believe some of the things she's done...
We really want his brother there. However, I keep telling my fiancee that I just don't think his brother will come without her. He had a conversation with him, but his brother just didn't seem to understand why we can't just forget the "past," even though it is still happening all the time! If she came to the wedding, I wouldn't put it past her to do something to ruin the day. She has just about ruined every family holiday she has come to. She always has to be the center of attention, but it's always negative attention! The kids aren't an issue because we are choosing to make our wedding "kid-free".
My fiancee is waiting to see what happens since we have a lot of time before the wedding. He is hoping his brother will come around and agree to come without her but I don't see anything changing and I feel like we will end up at an impasse. I don't even want to put her name on an invitation.
What would you all do in this sort of situation? I'm at a loss.