My husband and I were invited to a shower for one of his friends (it is at least the couple's fourth shower, based on what they've posted on Facebook) and we cannot attend. What is the protocol on sending a gift? Neither of us are in the wedding, and my husband and the groom are not as close as they once were (I am not especially close friends with either the bride or groom). We didn't have any showers when we got married, so I don't have anything to go off. We will be attending the wedding and obviously bringing a gift to that, but do we need to send a gift to the shower we can't go to?