My future MIL asked me yesterday (Very sadly) if she could still sign her sons name to the family Christmas card. He, my fiancée, is nearly 30 years old, no longer lives with her and we are getting married in 6 months. He and I plan on sending our own Christmas cards to our guest list with our engagement photos featured.
She has had a hard time letting go of both of her grown boys (neither of which live at home) and I don't want to take away the small things, but I find it strange that she's signing their names to the Christmas card, considering their age. It's time for he and I to start our family and represent separately. Even if he wasn't engaged, I think 30 years old is a little aged to be included on the family Christmas card.
I think if she signed the card 'Love, the Smith family' that would be fine, but she wants to list their names.
Christmas is all about warm greetings and celebrating the birth of Christ and family so I don't want to make a huge issue. But I want to establish some small boundaries and I thought maybe this would be a gentle place to start?