I know this is a silly post but the H, BFFs and MOB I'm sure are getting tired of it. We planned and paid for our wedding ourselves and it was fun, exciting, and seriously stressful. I miss it all now and of course in retrospect am not sure why I was so stressed. I keep reliving not just what truly was our beautiful, most happy day but the actual planning and am STILL obsessed with weddings. Worse, I've been criticizing ours and have made a list of things I still would definitely do over despite how overall well it turned out.
When planning, compromises definitely had to be made due to timing, location (as in proximity to church), and budget (although we set a fairly robust one, this area ain't cheap!). I was so stressed and exhausted that there were more than a few times I think I sort of just started giving up. My wonderful now hubby was extremely involved but was on work travel a lot and, after all is still a man so tiny details that mattered a lot to me I just didn't even bother to share with him because I know he was already carrying a lot trying to make me happy.
Meanwhile, I was overly concerned with trying to pull off the perfect day and make everyone else happy. So I gave up the best outdoor reception venue worried that the tented area and ground wouldn't work for the elderly guests and weather would be too much of worry. Coordinating multiple vendors was getting hard so we found a lovely luxury hotel that had both out and indoor spaces and let us customize the menu etc.
The day flew by and when we returned from our incredible honeymoon I began reliving through photos and getting feedback. Some was stellar and some left me starting to second guess my choices which led me down the black hole of deep self-criticism and desperate want of a do-over. Here is my list:
1) Hire better photographer (allocate less to flowers and food and more to a top)
2) Get planner/day of coordinator
2) Plated dinner vs. three stations
3) Have the late night bites passed or announced
4) Get paper products designed to match with our self-made graphic early on
5) Band instead of DJ
6) Balloons/props for photos
7) Take more time dress shopping
8) Signage for cigar bar area
9) Switch s'more station to ice cream/sno cones
Does anyone else feel this way??? What is your list? Tell me I'm not crazy. Please.