Open, but not 'out'.

*Barbie*

VarunaTT said:

There's actually a really big....let's try and call it a conversation about "out" in terms of polyam and the BDSM communites.  B/c those doesn't qualify as a sexual orientation or gender identification, but they are marginalized populations that have cross overs with the LGBTQ+ population (and some of the full acronym usage will include them).

*I* personally don't care about polyam/BDSM inclusion as long as there is absolute 100% acceptance of the entire queer spectrum.  B/c I know transphobic polyam people and HELL NO, you don't get in to have access queer spaces.  It's an all or nothing proposition and I've called out many cis-queer people out on it as well.

ETA:  Polyamorous is different than polysexual.

IMHO all of the different identifiers can be confusing, and difficult to keep track of. It seems to be an ever-growning list. I appreciate the respectful discussion and feedback because it helps people who are not part of the LGBTQ+ community to become better allies. People are people - regardless of how they identify. 

love who you love, date who you date, sleep with whoever, enjoy yourselves - as long as the people in the relationship are consenting adults, it's fine with me, and it's nobody's business. 

@baconsmom - if you don't mind answering, i am curious if Bacon knows about your relationship being open, and if not, do you plan to tell her when she's older? I'm curious because I remember Kuus telling us a story about her parents - but not realizing until she was an adult that her mom's friend was likely more than a friend. 

southernbelle0915

CMGragain said:

It amazes me that each generation thinks they have discovered something new about sex.  The Edwardians called it "modern marriage".  In the 60s, it was called "swinging".  Then "open marriage" in the 70s.  Now polyamorous?  Yawn.

Serious question...why are you on this thread? Just to be condescending? To try and demonstrate how enlightened you’ve been along? COOL!!

knottie6fe2cc5434160aa2

Too bad you already opened your homophobic mouth and said something about it already.
Honestly, when will straight people stop?

baconsmom said:

@VarunaTT, I should have thrown up the bat signal for you. Thank you! I was wondering what you would have to say, and I knew you'd be so much more eloquent and knowledgeable than I could be. 

(On a personal note, I don't feel like I have a dog in the "out" fight, because honestly, I'm a cishet white girl, and this is not my fight. It's not for me to say anything about it, really, and no, you'll probably never see me posting on Coming Out Day or anything. I'm content to just go with whatever.)

missJeanLouise

knottie6fe2cc5434160aa2 said:

Too bad you already opened your homophobic mouth and said something about it already.
Honestly, when will straight people stop?

baconsmom said:

@VarunaTT, I should have thrown up the bat signal for you. Thank you! I was wondering what you would have to say, and I knew you'd be so much more eloquent and knowledgeable than I could be. 

(On a personal note, I don't feel like I have a dog in the "out" fight, because honestly, I'm a cishet white girl, and this is not my fight. It's not for me to say anything about it, really, and no, you'll probably never see me posting on Coming Out Day or anything. I'm content to just go with whatever.)

I think you quoted the wrong person. .... because this response just doesn’t make any sense.

banana468

@missJeanLouise, I would just not engage with this poster.