Ok, me and my fiance are eloping in st Thomas this coming August. We are planning a 'reception' in September for family and friends in Brooklyn, NY. I live in Upstate NY and he lives in the city. Most of my family will be coming from all over, so should I send out a STD to kind of warn my family that travel is in the near future and then send out invites a few months ahead of party? I just dont want to seem like im doing too much for a non traditional wedding.