My MOH (Emily) and I have been best friends since elementary school. We've been through it all. Over the past year or so our friendship has not been how it used to be. She moved away to Charleston to get away from our hometown and she has been on and off again with her "boyfriend." Me and my fiancé have been together for 7 years. Hanging out with her now is much harder since we are at such different points in our lives.
Because my fiancé is a triplet, he is having 3 best men. This worked out for me because I was hesitant to have Emily as my only MOH. With her living 4 hours away and not being the most dependable person I've ever known, it worked well that my fiancé's sisters would also be MOH's.
First the issue of the bachelorette party came about. She wanted to do something completely different than what the other 2 MOH's wanted to do and was/is constantly complaining about how they were being stubborn and not any fun. Tension was created between her and the other 2 MOH.
The biggest issue to date is her holding it over my head that I had a dress fitting on her birthday. I had to apologize several times to her about having to schedule it on her birthday. She eventually seemed to get over it and said she would come to the fitting. Her, 2 other bridesmaids, and I were going to drive an hour to my dress fitting together to save gas. A few days before the fitting she said she wanted to go to a late lunch after the fitting and hang out for her birthday. I wanted to celebrate with her but the other 2 bridesmaids had to go back home right after the dress fitting for school stuff. Emily wanted me to tell them to drive themselves to the dress fitting so we could go celebrate her afterwards. I told her that I wasn't going to make them drive themselves all that way for 15 min to turn right back around. I wanted us all to drive together to save gas money and also get the chance to hang out together. I told Emily we could go out later that night and do whatever she wanted after we took the other girls home, but she said either we go right after or not at all. So she chose to not come home from Charleston bc I wouldn't give in to making the other girls drive separate.
So Emily threw a bridal shower for me the weekend after her birthday. I had to reschedule our engagement pictures for the afternoon of the shower and had asked her a few days before how long she thought the shower would last...her response was "However long. I don't really care." She was still mad about her birthday.
On the day of the shower she threw, things went better than I would have thought. I thanked her several times for throwing the shower before I left. She seemed ticked off when I left the shower so I texted her later that day saying thank you again and that all the polaroid pictures had turned out great! Her responses were "you're welcome" "yay"...I asked her if she was okay and she said "yep"....
I asked her why she was being so short and she said she had been upset since her birthday...I told her that I was sorry and that we could have done something but she had chosen not to come home. She said that she had to make other plans. I told her that she didn't have to make other plans, that she chose to and asked who she did stuff with that day.....her response, "See you at the wedding" had me furious...I told her I'd see her before the wedding and she said "oh yeah rehearsal"...
WHO SAYS THAT TO THE BRIDE?! and expects to still be in the wedding? I had to refrain from responding back to just not bother showing up.
I'm meeting with her in person today to talk about it but I'm not dealing with her attitude and her acting like this for the next 2 months.
What do I do without making matters worse???