I'm in need of some advice. My wedding is in three weeks and I found out yesterday that my maid of honor is moving a few states away in two weeks. She is still planning to fly back for my wedding, and I don't expect her help on anything the week of the wedding anyhow, so the move itself is not the issue at all. The problem is that she didn't actually tell me herself, I found out via a Facebook post her husband made, which was a bit hurtful. She told me after the fact via text that she's known a few weeks, so it's upsetting that she was not more proactive about reaching out to tell me.
Add to this the fact that over the past 6-9 months or so, I've felt like she has been increasingly de-prioritizing our friendship. Her own wedding was about 3 months ago, so I chalked it up to busyness or stress related to wedding planning. I kept proactively reaching out to chat, ask if she needed any planning help, attempt to get together, etc., hoping that after her wedding things would go back to normal, but they never really did. Any communication we've had, attempts to get together, etc. have been made by me even in the past 3 months after he wedding.
So I guess I'm most upset about the fact that we were previously so close, obviously close enough for me to ask her to be my MOH, but if I were just now choosing my wedding party, I don't know if I'd even have her in it. I'm afraid that her moving is going to be the end of our friendship, because she's not making it a priority even when she's in the same city. Part of me wants to tell her how I feel and my fear that I'm about to lose our friendship for good, but the other part of me feels that the ship is sailed, and that especially in light of the move, trying to rekindle our friendship is a lost cause.
What would you do? Tell her that I'm hurt or leave it well enough alone? Thanks for the advice.