I'm getting married to a wonderful man in October. I asked his sister to be a bridesmaid even though I'm not very close to her because he is. However, after initially agreeing, she later caused all sorts of drama over the dress and eventually decided she didn't want to be involved because she just wouldn't be comfortable in front of everyone. She has some issues, and if she's not comfortable, then I certainly don't want to force her to take part.
Here's the thing. Whenever my fiance and I are doing something for the wedding that involves his parents, he invites his sister along too. I'm not sure why this is bugging me so much, except that for someone who isn't comfortable being a bridesmaid, she definitely isn't shy about sharing her opinions. Also, it'd be nice to spend some time with just his parents. His sister still lives with them, and she's always there whenever we visit. I don't know how to bring any of this up with with my FH though, or if I even should. Any thoughts?