Tuesday

6fsn

Anything good going on?  It's try out week and it's supposed to be stormy so no pool until Friday.  We're going to try letterboxing today.  I'm directionally challenged so I don't hold out high hopes. 

The weekend was ok.  I have some feelings about certain events.

Saturday we were at a neighborhood party.  There is one 5 yo boy that has behavioral issues, but I'm not really clear on details.  We have only had a few dealings with them, but I have heard stories from other neighbors.  Neighbors have special rules just for him and nobody will let him in their house.  His parents are very free range. 

Some of the kids were in in the basement playing.  All of a sudden I heard this blood curdling scream.  I don't even know how to describe it other than a wounded animal.  I raced downstairs and found M2 in this loft thing COVERED in blood and it just kept pouring out of her head.  I mean COVERED.  I grabbed her up and went upstairs. 

The one guy used to be an EMT so he was asking questions, looking at her eyes, and the blood just kept coming.  I sent DH home to get the van because we were sure it was going to be stitches.  There was so much blood. 

We got loaded up and off to the ED, but by some miracle it stopped bleeding a half a mile down the road.  M2 and I had blood soaked through our clothes. I even had to change my underwear there was so much blood.

I come to find out the boy with issues had chucked a heavy wooden stool thing and it hit M2 in the head.  I want to be all "accidents happen" and "he wasn't trying to hurt her" but I also want to say, if you know your kid has issues why aren't you watching him more? I know it only takes a second though.  They could have been standing right there and it still would have happened.

I told the parents I know he didn't have any idea that would happen and that I know he wasn't trying to hurt her.  The mom replied "I'm not so sure about that."  So you think your kid might hurt people on purpose, but you still let him run around willy nilly? 

I know I need to move past it and be happy she's fine, but damn.  She just got her cast off and I was afraid she was going to need stitches. 

kvruns

@6fsn that is scary! I'm glad she is OK but yikes. And wtf on the parent comment - you were being nice/understanding and then for the mom to basically say she's not surprised it happened. Uhhhh then you better have your eyes on your kid if you know he could easily hurt someone!! 

charlotte989875

Wow, that's terrible @6fsn, how is she doing today? Also, it definitely sounds like the mom knows something is up, but if that's the case she should be watching him far more closely that she was. 

kvruns

Weekend was good. Spent lots of time outside around water (splash pad, water table, another splash pad, pool) so B had fun. Even though I put sunscreen on him he definitely has tan little arms. oops. 

Office is finishing all of our moves after our construction. I was supposed to move but now I'm staying put at least through end of July. I like my desk but I prefer the people I was going to be sitting by (they are all of the people who used to sit where I still am). Our office is now half regular cube-land and half open floorplan, small open desks, hoteling stations, etc Blech. 

ShesSoCold

Holy crap, 6! I'm glad she's okay but yeah that's bullshit. I can't believe she acknowledges that something may be wrong with him but seems to not really be doing much about it.

My liver and I are lucky to be alive. It was a weekend full of drunk. But I had a complete blast and I am refusing to be mad at myself for eating and for not working out. Every once in a while, everyone needs a weekend like that.

charlotte989875

I ran a marathon this weekend! 

And now I'm exhausted. The race was a ton of fun, hard, but a lot of fun. I'll definitely do another one. 

Here's a pic of me downing my post-race beer. 

6fsn

As of about February the kid has started to receive some sort of services.  I just don't know exactly what because we aren't super close.  I just know that he qualified to for the public preschool program because he started riding the bus.

@kvruns- I remember taking my kids to the pedi over the summer and being all "I promise I sunscreen them!!" She replied "I worry when I don't see tan lines because it means the kid doesn't go outside.  Farmer tans are good.  It means they're playing like they should."

short+sassy

@6fsn, how horrible and scary for everyone!  I'm glad M2 is okay.  But, yeah, WTF with those parents?

@kvruns and @ShesSoCold, sounds like you both had such fun weekends!  I'm jealous.

@charlotte989875, congrats on your first marathon!  You are rocking it.

Not much going on in my world.  My area has been spared the tropical storm deluge expected, so I've been happy to have had sunshine instead of thunderstorms the last couple days.  Sorry FL, hang in there.  I hope @kimmiinthemitten still had a good weekend visiting her family.

I bought a seasoning spice from Hawaii that is supposed to make pork taste like Kahlua pork.  My H is prepping it this morning and throwing it in the crockpot.  Low and slow crockpot cooking is what was recommended.  I'm hoping to walk into my house when I get home from work to delicious smells emanating from the kitchen, lol.

CharmedPam

6, that is SO scary! I don't know what I'd do in that position. And what a weird comment by the mom.  Glad he's getting some services, and I hope it helps.
@charlotte989875, you totally deserved that beer!
@short+sassy, let us know how that crockpot roast turns out!
@shessocold, I too did not work out and ate horribly! In fact, on our way home I had planned to pop in a caulipower pizza and because we were in the car for 4.5 hours, and the only food was chips and those dried sugar snap peas I ate those for dinner and got full on chips.  BAD choices. Bad choices made by me.

SIL had her baby on Friday.  It's a boy! 8 lbs 2 oz. 19" long.  Her first was 7 lbs 14 oz and 20" long.  She's doing well, but I think they realized she got pregnant to quickly and her body hadn't healed before baby #2 was conceived (born 17 months apart).   We went and saw them on Sunday and Monday.  Big brother doesn't really know what's going on or what's going to happen - but probably thinks the baby will leave like all house guests eventually do...not this one.  Baby is staying! 

kvruns

@6fsn good to know! It is definitely a farmer's tan LOL

congrats @charlotte989875 is today 2 days post race? If so, how is the soreness? 

@CharmedPam congrats to your SIL

short+sassy

@CharmedPam, exciting!  I'm glad the new nephew was born and you all got to see him.  I'm picturing his toddler brother gazing down on him in a few days and saying...in Stewie fashion..., "Welp, time for you to be moseying on.  You know what they say about fish and house guests."

charlotte989875

Thanks @CharmedPam and @short+sassy!!

Yes, @kvruns I'm day 2 post race. Still pretty sore mainly going downstairs getting up from sitting down. The biggest thing is just the exhaustion. I haven't slept really well because I can't get comfortable, so I'm just really worn out. I'm regretting not taking today off of work. 

kvruns

I never had the going downstairs issue some have had but the sitting down, especially to pee, would be rough! 

charlotte989875

kvruns said:

I never had the going downstairs issue some have had but the sitting down, especially to pee, would be rough! 

Oh yeah, that sucks, too. 

I'm definitely not as sore as I was yesterday. I did a few slow walks yesterday, and again this morning before work, so I think that is helping. I'm just trying to rehydrate and staying moving. It was super hot (around 83 degrees at the finish) so that's probably part of the tiredness (that and going to a picnic out in the sun afterward). 

thisismynickname2

Holy cow, 6. I'm sorry that happened. Hope the healing goes quickly. 

Congrats Charlotte! 

Funny one should comment on kids and farmer tans. DD was born late last July and while we took her out on walks and to places, she basically stayed indoors because it was so hot. Then, as she developed into more of a "baby baby" (as I say, as opposed to a little newborn lump) it was winter so again, she didn't spent any time outdoors besides transit.  Now she's 10 months old and we've taken her to parks a couple times and she is just NOT impressed. I'm told she'll get used to the Great Outdoors but this kid looks at us like, "Um yeah I want to be back inside with my toys and books, thanks." She's turning into a bookworm and I couldn't be more proud, haha. 

Edit to add- OH. My longtime coworker got engaged this weekend. After like, 10-12 of waiting. WOOOOO. Seriously, she's been expecting a ring for at least 8 years. She's thrilled and we're all thrilled for her.

kvruns

@thisismynickname2 mine didn't really care for the great outdoors last summer (6-9 month range) aside from going for walks in the stroller. He hated grass, doesn't care for swings, pool was meh, and most other things he was too little for. Now at 1.5 he can't get enough of being outside and will cry and point for "siiiiiiiiiiiiiiide" all freaking day bc he wants to be out there 24/7. 

ShesSoCold

thisismynickname2 said:

Holy cow, 6. I'm sorry that happened. Hope the healing goes quickly. 

Congrats Charlotte! 

Funny one should comment on kids and farmer tans. DD was born late last July and while we took her out on walks and to places, she basically stayed indoors because it was so hot. Then, as she developed into more of a "baby baby" (as I say, as opposed to a little newborn lump) it was winter so again, she didn't spent any time outdoors besides transit.  Now she's 10 months old and we've taken her to parks a couple times and she is just NOT impressed. I'm told she'll get used to the Great Outdoors but this kid looks at us like, "Um yeah I want to be back inside with my toys and books, thanks." She's turning into a bookworm and I couldn't be more proud, haha. 

Edit to add- OH. My longtime coworker got engaged this weekend. After like, 10-12 of waiting. WOOOOO. Seriously, she's been expecting a ring for at least 8 years. She's thrilled and we're all thrilled for her.

My mom told me that as a kid, I would be all whiney and pissy when I was outside in the summer and especially in the sun.

I'm still like that. I don't like the sun and I hate to be hot.

My BIL and his girlfriend went camping this weekend with their 2 month old. You couldn't have paid me to do that this weekend.

mrsconn23

OMG @6fsn.  I'm glad M2 is OK.  That reaction...wow.  Awful.  And they're doing their kid no favors by being so blase about his issues and treatment of other people. 

The weekend was...stressful.  BIL and DH attempted to change out my shocks/struts and bearings.  They weren't able to get the bearing hub off after banging and some tool rental and whatnot.  So they abandoned that and just did the shocks, which went swimmingly.  When DH went to test drive my car, my dash was lit up like a Christmas tree and he couldn't accelerate above 4,000 RPMs.  And all the dealership service depts were closed yesterday.  We were able to limp my car back the 100 miles home (going only 60-65 MPH) and take it to the local dealership.  It was a nerve-wracking ride home because I was terrified that we were going to breakdown too far from Cincy and too far from Indy.  Now we wait to learn what this shit is going to cost us.  

Furthermore, we left the kiddo back in Indy because he had to work.  While he was at work Saturday evening, we got a call that our home alarm had gone off.  So we tell them to dispatch the police and call us back.  Over an hour goes by (in the middle of the car drama, natch) and we hear nothing.  We call the alarm company back and they're all, "Oh well, if no one has called you back, that's a good thing! But we'll check."  Turns out the kiddo left work and met the cop at our house.  And the reason for the call in the first place is that he locked the handle, but didn't throw the deadbolt when he left...so the door wasn't secured and as the air came on and off in the house, it pulled on the door and eventually opened it enough to trip the sensor.  Needless to say, learning moment for the kiddo re: securing doors and common courtesies.    He went to FIL's after his shift Saturday night and they got some good hang-out time together. 

But I did get a bunch of baby snuggles with my nephew.  My other nephew and DefConn had a good time together.  And we usually have a good time with SIL/BIL.

Dinner with my parents last night.  My mom is looking great and feeling better every day.  We had some good conversations about her time in the hospital (that she doesn't really remember), my grandparents, and how she feels about the future (mostly positive).  It was really nice. 

kimmiinthemitten

@6fsn I'm angry for you!  That is abhorrent behavior on the parents part!  

@charlotte989875 congrats!!  That's a huge accomplishment.  

Re:  Baby Tan Lines - The Nugget is a Florida baby - she's tan, wears sunscreen and has never been burnt which is what her pedi likes.

Thanks @short+sassy!  We had a nice weekend.  The rain was on and off Saturday and then came back as I was leaving last night, otherwise it was cloudy and windy.  It was a nice but fast weekend!  My sis and I still cry everytime we say goodbye (10 years later LOL and it's worse now.  The Nugget started bawling at the airport and yelling "I want to go to Michimam with Tete."  Ugh.  I was heartbroken.  The heartbreak the first year or so was she didn't know us, know the heartbreak is she knows us enough to miss us.

VarunaTT

I am sleepy because I stayed out too late last night and I don't want to work today because of life (the 2 aren't necessarily connected) and my right eyeball hurts.  This new contact learning curve is being really rough and I'm not sure if I'm being a baby or not.  It's a sclera lens, so it's the size of my iris, rather than just the pupil and it just hurts.  The doctor hasn't pooh-poohed me, but there seems to be not much to be done to fix it.  So, blerg to that.

short+sassy

@kimmiinthemitten, I thought of you this weekend.  I watched a horror movie called "Eloise".  Though I liked that it was a more story-lined based horror movie, than just a guts and gore one.  Anyway, the opening scene was writing about the history of a mental institution/hospital called "Eloise".

I paused the film and Googled it.  Interesting stuff!  It ran from 1832-1982 and is in a nearby suburb of Detroit.  At one point, it was one of the largest hospital complexes in the world.  900 acres, 78 buildings, and almost 10K people admitted or working there.

In the present day, it's 50 acres and 4 buildings.  With one of those buildings still in use as offices for some government agencies.

When it was up for sale (maybe it still is) recently at $1.5M, a reporter asked the broker if he was worried about its history of being haunted.  His reply (paraphrasing) was, "Nobody believes that s**t. (more response about the great opportunity)."  I was dying of laughter that this guy actually used the word s**t talking to a reporter.  I am curious if that is a "Detroit" thing or if that is a "this broker" thing, lol.

I was really glad I had Googled it right before watching the movie.  Although the movie was obviously very fictional, they did throw in some real facts about the place. 

CharmedPam

short+sassy said:

@kimmiinthemitten, I thought of you this weekend.  I watched a horror movie called "Eloise".  Though I liked that it was a more story-lined based horror movie, than just a guts and gore one.  Anyway, the opening scene was writing about the history of a mental institution/hospital called "Eloise".

I paused the film and Googled it.  Interesting stuff!  It ran from 1832-1982 and is in a nearby suburb of Detroit.  At one point, it was one of the largest hospital complexes in the world.  900 acres, 78 buildings, and almost 10K people admitted or working there.

In the present day, it's 50 acres and 4 buildings.  With one of those buildings still in use as offices for some government agencies.

When it was up for sale (maybe it still is) recently at $1.5M, a reporter asked the broker if he was worried about its history of being haunted.  His reply (paraphrasing) was, "Nobody believes that s**t. (more response about the great opportunity)."  I was dying of laughter that this guy actually used the word s**t talking to a reporter.  I am curious if that is a "Detroit" thing or if that is a "this broker" thing, lol.

I was really glad I had Googled it right before watching the movie.  Although the movie was obviously very fictional, they did throw in some real facts about the place. 

Sounds like my cup of tea! Can it be found on netflix, hulu or prime? 

short+sassy

@CharmedPam, I'm not sure!  I had taped it from one of my cable channels.  I just looked it up and the film was released in Feb. 2017.  I didn't realize it was that recent.  So I wouldn't be surprised if it is on one of those options.

Edited to add:  although I was mainly looking for historical info about the place, I also came across recountings of haunted incidents people have had there.

I know you're a ghost hunting gal.  If you find yourself near Detroit, you should go check out the grounds.  I think the public is allowed on the first floor of the main building (the only one still in use).  The cemetary for Eloise is across the street.  But don't go skulking into any of the abandoned buildings.  That did not work out well for the people in the movie, lol.

levioosa

Omg @6fsn. That is awful. I’m glad M2 is okay. That would be an express ticket to never being invited anywhere ever again. I dgaf if it’s a block or school party and you feel left out. Control your monster of a child. If someone told me my kid threw a stool and I thought there was the faintest chance it was done on purpose to see someone get hurt I’d be dragging my kid to the psychiatrist so fast. 

Congrats @charlotte989875!!!

I’m so glad to be home today. Yesterday was rough at work. I am glad it was on Memorial Day instead of my original Fourth of July schedule though. I would have been so salty if I had to work with all of the verbal abuse/hitting while I knew everyone was having a great time at the BBQ a few streets away. I get to enjoy the 4th now, phew. 

Otherwise, SSDD. Studying and cleaning on the schedule today with possible gym. I ate terribly this weekend so I’m ready for a week of salads and zero sugar. 

charlotte989875

Thanks everyone! I'm super proud of myself for finishing. I wore my medal all day after the race. 

6fsn

charlotte989875 said:

Thanks everyone! I'm super proud of myself for finishing. I wore my medal all day after the race. 

You deserve to wear that medal for a year!!

charlotte989875

The job accepted my counter and I verbally accepted. 

It's been a busy week already and need a nap. 

charlotte989875

6fsn said:

charlotte989875 said:

Thanks everyone! I'm super proud of myself for finishing. I wore my medal all day after the race. 

You deserve to wear that medal for a year!!

There's a good chance I'm going to put it back on when I get home. 

ShesSoCold

charlotte989875 said:

The job accepted my counter and I verbally accepted. 

It's been a busy week already and need a nap. 

Wow! You're having a hell of a week! Congrats on everything!!! You take your medal right to the couch for a nap!

charlotte989875

ShesSoCold said:

charlotte989875 said:

The job accepted my counter and I verbally accepted. 

It's been a busy week already and need a nap. 

Wow! You're having a hell of a week! Congrats on everything!!! You take your medal right to the couch for a nap!

I don't know that I'm accurately processing the emotions of this week, so I'm absolutely going to do the bolded. 

short+sassy

charlotte989875 said:

The job accepted my counter and I verbally accepted. 

It's been a busy week already and need a nap. 

So awesome!  Pretty soon, you are probably going to feel like you have tons of free time, now that you are cutting down from two f/t jobs to just this one.  At least at first, lol.

Alas, I firmly believe there is "time creep", just like "income creep".  But it will still be SO much better.