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Second guessing wedding dress

Help!! I’ve known from the start my fiancé isn’t a huge fan of “poofy” dresses but ended up getting one anyways because I’m not confident when it comes to something tighter and I had the mindset “he’ll like it on me”. I absolutely LOVED my dress, even surprised myself by bursting into tears when I knew it was “the one”. Fast forward to now, 4 months later, now that I’ve picked it up. When I first ordered it I couldn’t stop looking at pictures of it, I was obsessed.  Now, I worry it’s too big and overpowering on me, and second guessing my decision entirely. Is this common?? I’m attaching a picture as well. Please be honest! I don’t know if I’m just having a bad day or if I was wrong about the dress

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  • ShesSoColdShesSoCold bend over and I'll show ya
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    Help!! I’ve known from the start my fiancé isn’t a huge fan of “poofy” dresses but ended up getting one anyways because I’m not confident when it comes to something tighter and I had the mindset “he’ll like it on me”. I absolutely LOVED my dress, even surprised myself by bursting into tears when I knew it was “the one”. Fast forward to now, 4 months later, now that I’ve picked it up. When I first ordered it I couldn’t stop looking at pictures of it, I was obsessed.  Now, I worry it’s too big and overpowering on me, and second guessing my decision entirely. Is this common?? I’m attaching a picture as well. Please be honest! I don’t know if I’m just having a bad day or if I was wrong about the dress
    I can't see a picture, but if you're only feeling this way today, give it another several days. Don't worry at all what your FI thinks. He isn't wearing the dress and you should wear something YOU love.

    If you do think it's too poofy, maybe see if some of the layers in the skirt can be removed to make it sit a little flatter.
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  • It's a lovely dress that looks very good on you. I don't think it's overpowering at all. 

    Are you second guessing the dress because you're not sure you like it anymore, or because you're worried that your FI won't like it? If it's the latter, remember that your FI has no say in your wedding dress. You need to wear something that YOU love. Besides, I bet your FI will think you look beautiful on your wedding day no matter what. He's not going to be standing there thinking "Oh no, she wore a poofy dress, how could she!?" 

    Like @ShesSoCold said, give yourself a couple of days and then look at the dress again. If you've loved the dress for this long, I suspect you are just having a bad day and feeling doubtful about stuff, which happens to everyone from time to time. 
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  • I think it looks great your fiancé is probably thinking of over the top poofy dress. I know this is considered a ballgown but before I went shopping for dresses I thought this would be a fuller a line. If your comftable and it maid you so happy you cried I think your fine.
  • CasadenaCasadena
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    wow, I LOVE that dress on you.  Like, one of my favorite dresses I have seen on anyone recently.  I totally get feeling unsure and only you can decide whether its the right one for you.  However, if you're unsure that it doesn't look good - no fear, you look fabulous!

    Also, I definitely wouldn't classify that dress as "poofy" :)


  • edited July 9
    wow, thank you so much everyone! I promise this wasn't a post to get an ego boost, I truly still am not sure. Part of the issue is because anytime looking at dresses before going into a store I was always drawn more to something a bit more form fitting, and I was worried at my second fitting that the dress seems too big on me in regards to no shape to it. I'm not worried about my fiance not liking it, more so if a different shape/style would have better suited me :/
  • ShesSoColdShesSoCold bend over and I'll show ya
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    I think it looks absolutely gorgeous on you. 

    But, I gotta say that the biggest regret I have about my wedding was the dress. I didn't like it. I wish I'd just gotten over the cost and gotten a different dress. 

    Did you try on more form fitting dresses? Because the dresses I tried on in person that I'd thought would be best for me, ended up looking kind of bad. 

    The only person who can determine whether or not you love this dress or get a new one is you. I'm sorry you're feeling like this. I know it's a shitty, conflicted feeling. 
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    I think it looks absolutely gorgeous on you. 

    But, I gotta say that the biggest regret I have about my wedding was the dress. I didn't like it. I wish I'd just gotten over the cost and gotten a different dress. 

    Did you try on more form fitting dresses? Because the dresses I tried on in person that I'd thought would be best for me, ended up looking kind of bad. 

    The only person who can determine whether or not you love this dress or get a new one is you. I'm sorry you're feeling like this. I know it's a shitty, conflicted feeling. 

    To the bolded - SAME.  The dress I chose was very pretty, and looks very nice in pictures, but 5 years later, I still wish I would have gone with my gut and paid slightly more for the one I really wanted. 


  • That dress is gorgeous and it looks fantastic on you.  You are not at all mistaken in that regard.

    I also wouldn't describe it as having no shape.  It is fitted on the top and accentuates your waist.

    It's natural to have some doubts after there has been some time to second-guess yourself.  Consider all the facts:  You love the dress.  You cried when you first put it on.  It sounds like you still feel beautiful and confident in it and are just wondering if you'd like something better.

    If you've already tried on a lot of dresses and loved this one, you're probably just having some nerves.  But if you're starting to have serious second guesses, it doesn't hurt to try on more dresses that are more in line with what you've been picturing.

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  • thisismynickname2thisismynickname2 City By The Lake
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    First off, that's a gorgeous dress and looks great on you! Second, I second seeing if any of the underskirt can be removed for a slimmer line, if you really want that. 
    Also, remember that with trying on dresses you're not getting the full bridal picture. The dress is obviously either not hemmed yet or you're just not wearing heels- that'll make a difference in how the dress falls. Your hair looks casual- if you're planning a fancier 'do and/or a veil, that'll make a difference. Same with jewelry! I think you'll fall in love with the dress all over again when you have the complete "look." 
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  • CharmedPamCharmedPam Chicagoburbs
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    I love it! I agree, I don't find it too poofy at all.  I think mine may have been poofier!  It's very nice. The problem is there are just TO many to decide on, so I get it.  I had a few I loved.  

  • You look absolutely lovely.  And your fiance won't see the dress, he will see you, the woman he loves, in the dress. 
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