So, FI and I will be moving overseas a couple months after our wedding, as the plan is for me to be starting graduate school in another country (he works remotely and will be moving with me).
I'm starting to worry about how this will impact gifts. We currently live in Australia, and cash gifts are the norm in our circles. However, the program I'd be starting is an MBA, and I'm very conscious that my Facebook feed is probably going to look pretty "lavish", based on others' I've seen - I'm budgeting for international trips, balls, nights out, etc. Both our families are pretty down-to-earth, middle-class people and for some of them even going overseas at all is a once-in-a-lifetime sort of deal. FI and I have been saving for this for a while and (after carefully balancing the numbers) can afford a modest wedding plus graduate school, but I really, really don't want our guests to feel that we are using them to fund our "lavish lifestyle"!
Obviously I want to limit physical gifts just for practical reasons - we're not even sure what country we'll end up in after graduation! (I don't mind the odd set of linens from someone who really insists, but as I said most gifts here are cash so I don't think this will be a big problem.) But should I be asking for no cash gifts too?
- don't register anywhere, and have parents/MOH etc mention we're moving overseas
- possibly suggest making a donation to one of the charities we support, instead of a gift to us? would this seem pretentious?
Am I overthinking this? Is there anything else we could do to reduce the "pay for our trips!!" vibe?