What to do when your bridesmaid won't apologize?

knottie3db6b3ee362e469c

   

ShesSoCold

knottie3db6b3ee362e469c said:

My bridesmaid is usually amazing! She has been a good friend for 10 years (we had a falling out a couple years ago but managed to recover), but last weekend I saw a side of her that I didn't expect to see. I know she's been going through some things, but she was rude to my MOHs (I have 2) and my future husband (even had the nerve to yell at him). She felt the party was chaotic (you try planning a destination weekend for 30 people and see how smoothly it goes) and is "hurt to see me hurt" (I've been frustrated with everyone's participation at times... including hers... but not hurt) She feels she's just trying to help and is defending me and no one is stepping up besides her, but I feel she just wants the credit and has her own agenda. I just want everyone to be friendly and drama free. I spoke with her about her behavior at our destination pre-wedding party, but rather than just apologizing and moving on (she's never been great at that), she has been reaching out to others (seemingly to get them on her side) to see if they think she needs to apologize to me and my MOHs (she finally did to my fiance, but all apologies to me have felt insincere). Either way I feel like she shouldn't be sharing her opinions of my bridal party choices with ANYONE, especially people who aren't invited to my wedding, yet I've been hearing from a bunch of people that she openly shares her opinions and is trying to say it's misconstrued through a game of telephone. It's feeling like her show... she wants to change plans, doesn't listen to what I would like and feels she knows it all when it comes to what I want (even if I did the planning for what we're doing and it was my choice). She's kind of always felt like she knows better than I do, but this is our wedding... My fiance is getting very frustrated with her and I don't know how to get through.... Help!

If you're going to post on multiple boards, please put "XP" in your title line.

Also, most posters here frequent all/most the boards so duplicate posts really aren't necessary. 

And, like I said on WW. This post is extremely ramble-y and I'm having a really hard time understanding what even happened. If you planned your own bachelor/ette destination weekend, you should probably apologize to her. 

ETA - So, regardless of what happened, you want an apology, she gave you (someone?) one and it's not good enough for you? And you know that she's not typically one to verbally apologize for anything? Based on what I can see here, you need to let this go. 

Or you can delete your post, take your ball and go home. That works too.

NBSquared2017

The same answer applies here. 

Your WP doesn't owe you anything except showing up on time and in the right dress. Maybe you should apologize to them for having ridiculous expectations. 

MobKaz

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