My husbands cousin got married around the same time that our first baby was due. The wedding was in another state and since I was unable to fly, we were not able to make it out there. They chose their wedding date at the same time we announced we were pregnant so we all knew that DH and I would not be attending the wedding. She knows we would have come if we could have but logistically speaking, it wasn't going to work out. She did not send us an invitation. We never got a Save The Date, we never got an invite, we never heard anything else about the wedding except hearing the rest of the family talk about it. She never reached out to us to see how the pregnancy was going (Nor did I expect her to since she was busy wedding planning!) but she never even responded to me when I would text or email her to see how wedding planning was going. I'm not upset by any of that, I know that life gets in the way and you're busy and some things slip through the cracks etc etc etc. My question is this - since we were never invited to the wedding (either formally or informally in any way shape or form), should we have gotten them a wedding gift? She's family so of course we would have gotten them something if we had received an invite in the mail with their address, registry info, etc. I feel guilty about not getting them something but my husband said that even if they knew we couldn't fly, he still expected some kind of save the date and/or invite just as a nicety and so that we would know their registry situation, etc. What's the etiquette on a gift for a wedding you're not invited to?