Soooooo much to do this week. How was the weekend?
Friday night we took the kids to the ILs so we could do DH's Christmas party. It was actually a lot of fun.
Saturday back to the ILs to get the kids and celebrate Christmas. Asshole story ahead....
DH's grandmother did the Swim for Diabetes for DECADES. She had a t-shirt from every year that she did it. Last year she passed and BIL took all of the t-shirts. MIL though they had been pitched, but BIL had them made into a quilt for her. MIL loved it. She cried. SIL made sure to get it all on video.
They also had the t-shirts made into quilts for the kids. DH commented that he would have rather just had the shirts to do with as he pleased instead of having the quilt. He also said commented it would be hard to split it among our kids.
So this is where I turn into the asshole. BIL and his wife have this history of doing these sappy things, taking videos and pictures and posting all over. Of course this is no different. He's posted and his mom posted and everyone is all "what a great and thoughtful son." It will never be DH's personality to do something like this, but just once I would like for him to be acknowledged as a thoughtful son for the things he does do.
I'm also sad that DH would have rather had these shirts to do with as he pleased. I don't know what he would have done, but a big quilt in a color he doesn't like isn't what he wanted and now that choice has been taken from him. It's like the wine bottles from his grandfather that BIL turned into lamps. DH wanted the bottles to do with as HE wanted to remember his grandfather. BIL made everyone lamps. MIL cried and "he's so thoughtful!" posted away.
It's ok to call me an asshole. I acknowledge they aren't the nicest feelings to have when someone was trying to be thoughtful (although I don't believe he's TRULY being thoughtful as much as he's trying to put on a show). I do stand by it's not that kind to take the choice from DH though.