No doubt, there are some people out there who are way outside the realm of normal and reasonable.
The florist (S) for my wedding was my stepbrother's g/f. She dished out a few stories for me, lol. The one I remember is it was about 90 minutes or so before the wedding. "S" was in the church setting up the flowers. The bride had arrived and was looking over things before she went to go get ready.
The bride starts screaming and freaking out because the Sharpie next to the guest book was a thick point Sharpie instead of a fine point Sharpie.
She then proceeded to break down into hard, ugly crying. I'd like to think/hope that she wasn't really having a break down over the Sharpie Tragedy. And it was actually just the stress and nerves of the day that got to her. Like, "the Sharpie that broke the camel's back", lol.
Holy shit that miscarriage one. I would never speak to that person again.
I think I've mentioned before, but FSIL was in a wedding with a bridezilla. Bride made them buy $120 shoes, a $300 dress, a year in advance. Shoes were so hideous the cashier asked FSIL, "are you really going to buy those? We haven't sold a pair yet." They were so ugly I couldn't even lie to FSIL that they'd look okay. lol. They looked like stripper shoes. 7 inch heels, clear platform, glitter silver straps. So, so bad. Yelled at a bridesmaid who was having trouble zipping up the dress, that she shouldn't have "gotten fat when she knew the wedding was coming up." She made the bridesmaids get bland makeup so she "would look the prettiest." And then she lost it when FSIL added some eyeliner. She made FSIL drive her and her family to the venue and pick up the wedding dress from the cleaner. There was more stuff, but all around the bride was just terrible. I don't know how that wasn't a total relationship ender, but FSIL still texts her occasionally. It definitely put a damper on the friendship though.
I know I told this here before but it's great/horrible so it's worth typing out, IMHO.
My SIL isn't the friendliest, warmest person ever, but I didn't think she was a bridezilla.
Until she told us that she didn't ask her friend to be a bridesmaid because she was overweight and had tattoos. But, this friend does makeup and SIL asked her to do the makeup for the wedding party. The friend accepted. And then day of, didn't show, on purpose. Panic ensues because not one of us bridesmaid or the bride were any good at makeup. But good for the "friend". As far as I know, SIL hasn't talked to her since. I wish I could have high-fived her.
I am a part-time wedding planner, and I've been very lucky to only have had (1) crazy client in all my years. She requested the "most logistical-oriented" planner at my company, so my boss assigned her to me as her DOC. For the record- I met with her for her initial consultation, and said to my boss that I "wasn't sure we should take this one as a client." Alas, my suggestion went unheeded, and thus we have the following:
- I walked in to the venue the morning of her wedding- first person I saw was her photographer, whose first words were "She's screaming"
- Found bride getting ready, she was indeed screaming- at her own mother about her mom's hair and makeup. Don't remember much, but do remember the word "ugly" being used. Note- her mother was paying for this wedding (ugh)
- Bride was insistent on an unusual color combo (think black linens, unusual accent color, etc. No offense to anyone who may have used black, etc.). Bridesmaids had black dresses with ribbon bows in said accent color. Bride screaming that the ribbons/bows (that she bought!) were "floppy" and were "ruining her pictures." Cue us running out to attempt to safety pin thin ribbon bows on all her girl's dresses.
- Went into ballroom and had a melt-down about how the florist placed her up-lighting (it looked gorgeous!). Florist had already left, and refused to come back (they were done with her). Bride forced groom to help her move (heavy!) up-lights all over the room instead of enjoying cocktail hour.
- Yelled at her girls as they were lining up for introductions into the ballroom for "laughing and having fun"
- Yelled at me- while still standing in line to be introduced- because one of her girls had mentioned she had broken her favor. I just remember this loud "EXCUSE ME" being directed my way, because obviously I control how people handle their favors... /s
- Caused some grief with her bandleader/singer, who threatened to walk out right in the middle of a set. The singer actually HANDED me the microphone and was like "you deal with it"- I had to BEG them to stay (and let them know I was in the same boat).
- Wanted the doors to the ballroom to remain closed once her guests were inside for the dinner. No problem- except the bar was still outside in the cocktail hour room. She came out of the ballroom at one point and YELLED AT HER OWN GUESTS to get back inside. She physically forced some of them to leave the bar and go back in the room.
-I stumbled into her MOH in the bridal room when I was getting ready to leave- her MOH looked at me in the mirror and point-blank said "I am never speaking to her again once this wedding is over." Boss move.
There's more, but I honestly blocked it out, it was so bad. And I had poor interns with me- college girls who wanted to see what it was like to be a wedding planner. I spent SO much time promising them it wasn't like this. I never saw them again, so they were completely scared off.
After the wedding, she went back to all her vendors (venue, florist, us, etc.) and wanted some money back. My boss wrote the best email I've ever seen and told her if we heard one more peep out of her she would see her in court
And the worst part? Her parents, her friends, her groom- they just put up with it. They just stood there and took it, if it was being directed at them, or they witnessed it if it was directed at others. No one called her out on her behavior- it was the oddest thing I've ever seen. I wonder how the groom is doing, honestly.
This was over 10 years ago, and I am STILL shaking my head as I type this out. Completely unbelievable.
So, sorry for the novel- but that's my bridezilla story
No need to apologize, @NowIAmSyp. That was quite a story!
It never ceases to amaze me what these bridezilla types will get upset over and how poorly they'll treat their supposed loved ones. I don't consider myself a particularly easygoing person, but I can't imagine ever getting that freaked out and demanding over any detail in my wedding.
The miscarriage story.....sigh.....those people exist.
DD was a BM in the wedding of a friend who we knew was self absorbed and high maintenance. We wondered what her FI saw in her. Some of her demands/issues...
*Even though BM dresses were long, she expected the BM to wear brown, peep toed shoes.
*She expected everyone to have hair and make up professionally done because she did not want pale and poorly made up people in the pictures.
*DD attended bride's bridal shower knowing at the time that she was probably miscarrying. It broke my heart to sit beside her throughout this shit show of a shower. This would be her 3rd miscarriage. DD said it would not be worth the screaming. DD did miscarry. Bride, prior to knowing this, was upset because DD was "not animated, happy, or helpful enough" at the shower.
*The last straw was the week of the rehearsal. The story is complicated. My husband and I were also invited to this wedding. We went to great lengths trying to figure out cars/carpooling for this wedding. DD was TOLD that she would need to drive herself because bride was depending on her to do some driving of guests on behalf of the bride. Say what, now? DD finally snapped and said no. Bride basically said that if DD did not comply, she could stay home. DD said that sounded like a good plan. Bride says, (I wish I were joking) "You know, maybe God was trying to send you a message that if you were a better person/friend, you would not have had all those miscarriages. He clearly doesn't think you are ready to be a parent".
It took several of DD's REAL friends to take me off the ledge before I ripped that little missy a new one. The bride then had the gall to text me and ask whether this changed our attendance at her wedding. I wish I would have said we still planned on attending just to mess with her. Sometimes the high road is a struggle to take.
Oh @MobKaz that is awful. It sickens me that someone would be so cruel and heartless about something as painful as a miscarriage. Bridezilla would have deserved whatever new one you ripped her - and then some.
Wow @MobKaz. What a horrible human being. That was some crazy restraint on your part. I don’t think I could held back.
I did it only at the request of DD’s friends who reminded me that if she could walk away, I should too. Every time I think about that story I feel as raw as if it’s happening for the first time. In other news, apparently I am back on the “gateway drug known as 502” on The Knot. My automatic and remembered sign in no longer exists on my iPad or desktop. Wondering how long it will be before I lose it on my mobile as well 🤦🏻♀️
Wow @Mobkaz, I wouldn't have been able to restrain myself - don't mess with my kids - this mama bear will defend them to the end! That bride will get her comeuppance I am sure. It is a wonder that she has any friends. I just can't even imagine saying anything so cruel to someone.
Wow @Mobkaz, I wouldn't have been able to restrain myself - don't mess with my kids - this mama bear will defend them to the end! That bride will get her comeuppance I am sure. It is a wonder that she has any friends. I just can't even imagine saying anything so cruel to someone.
Ignoring that person was truly one of the hardest things I have ever done. Almost immediately following that wedding, most of her bridesmaids separated themselves from her. She and her husband eventually moved down state. My guess is there was nothing left for them here and they needed to make a fresh start somewhere else. As a parent, I used to strongly encourage my kids to try and take the high road, turn the other cheek, or let things go, unless they thought they were being treated like an absolute doormat. I also encouraged them from a fairly young age to face their demons and fight their own battles. I had no choice but to agree to DD’s wishes in handling this situation. Although it might have given me some immediate personal satisfaction, I’m glad I walked away from it. All bets are off, however, if anything like this ever happens to my grandbabies. LOL.
How can people be so cruel and self centered. My first husbands mother expected us there for Thanksgiving no matter what. I was at the hospital after a miscarriage until 3 hours before we were due to her house. He called her and explained why we might not make it. She said to never talk to her again if we didn’t come. During dinner she was gushing over her daughters kids and made the comment to the table about me “and this one is too selfish to give my son children”. He said nothing to her even privately. You know why is is an ex.
How can people be so cruel and self centered. My first husbands mother expected us there for Thanksgiving no matter what. I was at the hospital after a miscarriage until 3 hours before we were due to her house. He called her and explained why we might not make it. She said to never talk to her again if we didn’t come. During dinner she was gushing over her daughters kids and made the comment to the table about me “and this one is too selfish to give my son children”. He said nothing to her even privately. You know why is is an ex.
How can people be so cruel and self centered. My first husbands mother expected us there for Thanksgiving no matter what. I was at the hospital after a miscarriage until 3 hours before we were due to her house. He called her and explained why we might not make it. She said to never talk to her again if we didn’t come. During dinner she was gushing over her daughters kids and made the comment to the table about me “and this one is too selfish to give my son children”. He said nothing to her even privately. You know why is is an ex.
Holy self control, MobKaz & Deb!! Ugh I don't even know you or them and I'm all pissed off.
H and I had planned a small DW, which his mother did not agree with and tried to get us to change plans. When we cancelled the wedding because my mom was dying, MIL says to me, "Oh I see how it is - you'll change your plans for your mom but not me". She's lucky it was over the phone and not in person, but I will not forgive her for that nor will I forget it.
That's probably one of the most insensitive horrible things anyone has ever said to me but I can't picture even MIL being an asshole over a miscarriage! Jesus, how do these people look themselves in the mirror?
The only way I can even begin to “handle” it all is by assuming these people are so truly and wholly self absorbed they cannot see how cruel/insensitive they, and their comments sound.
Some of these stories are truly horrible. Wow. In shock.
Back when I was planning my first wedding, I wanted to call it off about 3 weeks before. I knew it was a huge mistake. My parents were paying for the wedding, and I called and told my mom. And, I will never forget this, she said, "If you call off this wedding, your father will never speak to you again." She emotionally blackmailed me into marrying someone I knew wasn't right for me. Needless to say, that marriage only last one year. I was divorced and in financial ruin by 25.
Re: Bridezilla stories, anyone?
No doubt, there are some people out there who are way outside the realm of normal and reasonable.
The florist (S) for my wedding was my stepbrother's g/f. She dished out a few stories for me, lol. The one I remember is it was about 90 minutes or so before the wedding. "S" was in the church setting up the flowers. The bride had arrived and was looking over things before she went to go get ready.
The bride starts screaming and freaking out because the Sharpie next to the guest book was a thick point Sharpie instead of a fine point Sharpie.
She then proceeded to break down into hard, ugly crying. I'd like to think/hope that she wasn't really having a break down over the Sharpie Tragedy. And it was actually just the stress and nerves of the day that got to her. Like, "the Sharpie that broke the camel's back", lol.
I think I've mentioned before, but FSIL was in a wedding with a bridezilla. Bride made them buy $120 shoes, a $300 dress, a year in advance. Shoes were so hideous the cashier asked FSIL, "are you really going to buy those? We haven't sold a pair yet."
Your FSIL is a kinder person than I am.
My SIL isn't the friendliest, warmest person ever, but I didn't think she was a bridezilla.
Until she told us that she didn't ask her friend to be a bridesmaid because she was overweight and had tattoos. But, this friend does makeup and SIL asked her to do the makeup for the wedding party. The friend accepted. And then day of, didn't show, on purpose. Panic ensues because not one of us bridesmaid or the bride were any good at makeup. But good for the "friend". As far as I know, SIL hasn't talked to her since. I wish I could have high-fived her.
- I walked in to the venue the morning of her wedding- first person I saw was her photographer, whose first words were "She's screaming"
- Found bride getting ready, she was indeed screaming- at her own mother about her mom's hair and makeup. Don't remember much, but do remember the word "ugly" being used. Note- her mother was paying for this wedding (ugh)
- Bride was insistent on an unusual color combo (think black linens, unusual accent color, etc. No offense to anyone who may have used black, etc.). Bridesmaids had black dresses with ribbon bows in said accent color. Bride screaming that the ribbons/bows (that she bought!) were "floppy" and were "ruining her pictures." Cue us running out to attempt to safety pin thin ribbon bows on all her girl's dresses.
- Went into ballroom and had a melt-down about how the florist placed her up-lighting (it looked gorgeous!). Florist had already left, and refused to come back (they were done with her). Bride forced groom to help her move (heavy!) up-lights all over the room instead of enjoying cocktail hour.
- Yelled at her girls as they were lining up for introductions into the ballroom for "laughing and having fun"
- Yelled at me- while still standing in line to be introduced- because one of her girls had mentioned she had broken her favor. I just remember this loud "EXCUSE ME" being directed my way, because obviously I control how people handle their favors... /s
- Caused some grief with her bandleader/singer, who threatened to walk out right in the middle of a set. The singer actually HANDED me the microphone and was like "you deal with it"- I had to BEG them to stay (and let them know I was in the same boat).
- Wanted the doors to the ballroom to remain closed once her guests were inside for the dinner. No problem- except the bar was still outside in the cocktail hour room. She came out of the ballroom at one point and YELLED AT HER OWN GUESTS to get back inside. She physically forced some of them to leave the bar and go back in the room.
-I stumbled into her MOH in the bridal room when I was getting ready to leave- her MOH looked at me in the mirror and point-blank said "I am never speaking to her again once this wedding is over." Boss move.
There's more, but I honestly blocked it out, it was so bad. And I had poor interns with me- college girls who wanted to see what it was like to be a wedding planner. I spent SO much time promising them it wasn't like this. I never saw them again, so they were completely scared off.
After the wedding, she went back to all her vendors (venue, florist, us, etc.) and wanted some money back. My boss wrote the best email I've ever seen and told her if we heard one more peep out of her she would see her in court
And the worst part? Her parents, her friends, her groom- they just put up with it. They just stood there and took it, if it was being directed at them, or they witnessed it if it was directed at others. No one called her out on her behavior- it was the oddest thing I've ever seen. I wonder how the groom is doing, honestly.
This was over 10 years ago, and I am STILL shaking my head as I type this out. Completely unbelievable.
So, sorry for the novel- but that's my bridezilla story
@NowIAmSyp, don't apologize for the novel, that was a great post! It's good to hear that kind of behavior is unusually crazy.
My favorite part was your brief interaction with the MOH. I'm sure that person must have some doozy stories for the events leading up to the wedding.
It never ceases to amaze me what these bridezilla types will get upset over and how poorly they'll treat their supposed loved ones. I don't consider myself a particularly easygoing person, but I can't imagine ever getting that freaked out and demanding over any detail in my wedding.
In other news, apparently I am back on the “gateway drug known as 502” on The Knot. My automatic and remembered sign in no longer exists on my iPad or desktop. Wondering how long it will be before I lose it on my mobile as well 🤦🏻♀️
As a parent, I used to strongly encourage my kids to try and take the high road, turn the other cheek, or let things go, unless they thought they were being treated like an absolute doormat. I also encouraged them from a fairly young age to face their demons and fight their own battles. I had no choice but to agree to DD’s wishes in handling this situation. Although it might have given me some immediate personal satisfaction, I’m glad I walked away from it.
All bets are off, however, if anything like this ever happens to my grandbabies. LOL.
H and I had planned a small DW, which his mother did not agree with and tried to get us to change plans. When we cancelled the wedding because my mom was dying, MIL says to me, "Oh I see how it is - you'll change your plans for your mom but not me". She's lucky it was over the phone and not in person, but I will not forgive her for that nor will I forget it.
That's probably one of the most insensitive horrible things anyone has ever said to me but I can't picture even MIL being an asshole over a miscarriage! Jesus, how do these people look themselves in the mirror?
Shessocold there is a special place in hell for people who makes comments like your MIL did. I’m sorry about your mom.
Back when I was planning my first wedding, I wanted to call it off about 3 weeks before. I knew it was a huge mistake. My parents were paying for the wedding, and I called and told my mom. And, I will never forget this, she said, "If you call off this wedding, your father will never speak to you again." She emotionally blackmailed me into marrying someone I knew wasn't right for me. Needless to say, that marriage only last one year. I was divorced and in financial ruin by 25.