My 8 month old daughter passed away on January 5. We decided on cremation, and because my husbands family all live on the other end of the country, we haven’t had any sort of memorial service or CoL. We want to wait until spring or summer because Alberta winters can be unpredictable and it will make travel easier.
H and I are just making arrangements to go out east for a week, next month, to see his family, and it occurred to me that we could just have a small gathering at a restaurant to celebrate our daughter’s life. Maybe with some photos and her urn and if anyone wanted to say a few words that would be fine.
I would still plan something for back home because the bulk of our friends and people who knew her are here. Many members of her care team and “medical family” have inquired about what we have planned, if anything.
Would it be terribly inappropriate to do both? I’m not very familiar with etiquette in this realm. I just wanted to save my husbands family from having to all travel a great distance to mourn her with us. They would still of course be welcome at the spring celebration, but his elderly grandparents probably won’t be up to the trip.
Feel free to offer options I am not seeing. My thought process is muddled by grief so I’m open to suggestions. You ladies never steer me wrong.