I (a straight woman) met a nice guy, and he’s bisexual. In a sort of reversal of a letter you answered last week, I’m fine with this. Maybe a little too fine? I find myself wanting to know more about my boyfriend’s sexual history with men, because I truly think that’s hot, but I don’t want to fetishize him at all. I think maybe it’s none of my business, but he has shared a bit. I know if I heard of a straight man plying his bisexual girlfriend for stories, I’d think it was gross. Am I on the verge of being exploitative? Should I keep quiet, or is there a way to let him know he can share this with me?
—New Boyfriend’s Sexuality