My husband and I have been married for five years. We met while he was divorcing from his first wife. They had no kids and don’t keep in touch at all. This year, my husband’s brother died after a short battle with cancer. My husband’s been devastated, but we are managing; my problem is with my mother-in-law. We have a wonderful relationship, and I love her like my own mother. She’s been putting up more pictures of her dead son around the house in remembrance. Some of those old family photos include my husband’s first wife, and my mother-in-law is actively looking for someone to photoshop his ex-wife out and photoshop me into them! I think it’s very considerate that she’s worrying about offending me, but I don’t want to be photoshopped into a picture I was never a part of! I’m also not actually offended by looking at the occasional picture that includes my husband’s ex-wife in these memorials. It’s not ideal, but I’m really not bothered by it. Any ideas on how to handle this?
—No Need to ’Shop Me In