Look I know that there is hardly ever a good reason to ask a MoH to stand down but I'm in a bind y'all. My bridesmaids are all surprised I haven't come to this conclusion sooner. So let me set the scene.
I got engaged in November. I knew immediately who I wanted my MoH to be, we've been friends since she was 3 and I was 4. It made sense since I didn't have any siblings. We have been really close since then. But now... I don't believe that to be the case.
She started dating this guy in October, and I didn't know he even existed until she happened to add a picture of them together in a Snapchat story. I asked her about it and she said, oh that's my boyfriend. Nonchalantly like it was no big deal.
She started planning her wedding (sayigs yes to the dress, putting money down on venues, etc) before she was even engaged. She at first told me she didn't want bridesmaids which I was totally on board with. Then she changed her mind, asked me to be a bridesmaid, and in the very next message told me she was only doing bridesmaids for the pictures.
I live in a different state than, and had flown in to visit with some family and one of my other bridesmaids who also lives in a different state than my MoH hapened to be in the same state too. I thought it would be a great opportunity for my bridesmaids that lived in that state to meet my out of state bridesmaid over coffee. I arranged it. And MoH blew me off to be with her boyfriend. It was super informal, she could have dropped by, with or without him, said hi bye and none would be more the merrier.
She said in our group text that she would "be MIA" because she's planning her own wedding (that is happening in June). I was grateful because one of my other bridesmaids stepped up and mentioned she too was planning her own wedding but she wasn't going to be MIA.
She's done so much I'm forgetting things. So much y'all. The last and final thing she did was get engaged and didn't even text me about it. I found out through one of my bridesmaids and confirmed it on Facebook. Worst still, she posted a Snapchat story about it, and didn't even send it to me directly.
Honestly, at this point, I don't think to her I am a friend. I don't want to be her friend even if my lrior statement was false. Am I unjustified is axing her as my MoH? How do I even broach the subject? "Oh hey your no longer my MoH or my friend. K thanks bye."