Dear Prudence,
My dad recently died, and my siblings and I are in the middle of planning his memorial. My dad’s sister and her husband are devout Christians and would each like to speak at the memorial. They have hinted that part of their speeches will include some religious content. My dad was not religious—he was even mildly anti–organized religion, and their religious zeal was an ongoing source of conflict—but had his own brand of private spirituality. My siblings and I are similarly religiously unaffiliated. How can we respectfully ask (or tell) them to keep their beliefs about the afterlife and any other Christian content to themselves?
—Respecting Dad’s Wishes