My immediate family besides my sister is not invited to my wedding.
They are extremely religious and have always hated my SO because they think he’s the reason I’m not religious anymore. They have been disrespectful for years. They have told me they would not come to the wedding. They have refused to acknowledge the wedding’s existence after telling me they wouldn’t come. So, they didn’t get invited. And now, with the wedding less than a month away, I am told through a friend that was talking to my sister that (after a few drinks) she spilled the my dad and brother are planning on sneaking into the reception.
I had already been getting over them not being there. I have gotten over them not supporting me and have been healing for a long time.
I don’t know what to do. I can kick them out, but I don’t want to cause a commotion. I can let them stay but they have just shown me the ultimate disrespect of telling me for so long that they aren’t coming, and then deciding to sneak in. They couldn’t tell me they changed their mind, wanted to make up and be supportive. I don’t know what they hope to gain. They’ve done this in the worst, most hurtful way possible.
I’m just shocked and numb and hurt. I’ve had nightmares about this, and it will probably come true.
I'm lost, what can I do?