So my fiance's best friend's wife has become a friend of mine over the last few years. She is also a professional wedding coordinator and she offered her services for free. I kind of impulsively asked her to be a bridesmaid without thinking about the consequences, and without discussing it with my fiance. It has created a few important conflicts in regards to the logistics (setting up & supervising vendors before the ceremony while pictures are being taken, timing the wedding party going down the aisle, etc). She insists she can make it work, but the venue staff and my photographer have said it'll be really hectic and complicate a lot of aspects, and it really has, but she says she can make it work. However, it's really stressing me out and I hate the complications that have come up because of it.
I value her friendship, and am so grateful that she originally offered to coordinate for free, but with all of these conflicts, she wouldn't really be coordinating that much on the day of, and I'd have to ask another friend (don't know who) to do certain things who isn't as qualified and awesome at coordinating, and who might want to just enjoy the wedding as a guest and with their date (my current bridesmaid/coordinator friend always talks about how she always hates attending weddings as a guest and not helping to coordinate)... Would it be horrible if I asked her to consider being solely the coordinator again? I wouldn't want to jeopardize our friendship. I love hanging out with her one-on-one and as a couple with her husband and my fiance. Technically, we could hire the venue's day of coordinator for $550, but we were really relieved to be saving that money. What should I do?!