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Say something...or start sending her porn? (But seriously, use your words.)

Dear Prudence,

My neighbor sends me religious texts every day, usually a passage from Scripture and a “daily blessing.” I’m agnostic, so I try to keep an open mind, but I sometimes find it annoying and certainly preachy. Should I block her number and risk missing important messages, ask her to stop and risk offending her, or try something else?

—Daily Texts

Re: Say something...or start sending her porn? (But seriously, use your words.)

  • Can you engage the neighbor? It sounds like the neighbor is probably deeply religious but if the passages aren't getting into smiting or what sins are unforgivable perhaps discussing this is best done face to face. 

    Or you can go the route of ignoring the messages and deleting them if you simply don't want to have that conversation.   But know that if you don't address this nothing will change. 
  • Ignoring is best route but asking not to send daily texts would probably be ideal.
  • Block her number? 

    But seriously just use your words and tell her you appreciate the thought but you’d prefer she stop. 
  • CharmedPamCharmedPam Chicagoburbs member
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    So this would annoy me too, as it’s not my religion.  Is she the neighborhood newsy? Either way I would just ignore the passages.  Wait for the real stuff. 

  • mrsconn23 said:
    Dear Prudence,

    My neighbor sends me religious texts every day, usually a passage from Scripture and a “daily blessing.” I’m agnostic, so I try to keep an open mind, but I sometimes find it annoying and certainly preachy. Should I block her number and risk missing important messages, ask her to stop and risk offending her, or try something else?

    —Daily Texts
    How do people survive life being this passive? “Gretchen, please stop sending me religious texts, thanks.”  And when she doesn’t, block her number. 
    This.  I just do not understand how people are so afraid to speak to others about issues. 
  • Gretchen, please only text if it is neighborhood related. Kthanxbai.

    Done and dusted.

    MissKittyDanger
  • You do have the option of just deleting or ignoring them, but I see nothing wrong with politely asking her to stop sending you these texts. I know it's awkward, but sometimes you have to let someone know directly that something doesn't interest you. 
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  • I'm a little curious about the relationship with the neighbor.  Especially since the LW used the word "neighbor" and not "friend".

    I don't want a daily text from a neighbor on any subject, lol.

    But, especially for something that is continually annoying the LW.  Even if it is just a minor annoyance.  Then they should absolutely say something.  It's a little awkward, but still a perfectly polite request.  A normal person's reaction would be to feel a little bad they had inadvertently being sending unwanted texts.  Shake it off.  Stop doing it.  Still a great neighborly relationship for everyone.  Problem solved.
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  • I'm a little curious about the relationship with the neighbor.  Especially since the LW used the word "neighbor" and not "friend".

    I don't want a daily text from a neighbor on any subject, lol.

    Yeah, how did the neighbor even get LW's number if they're not that close?  I don't have any of my neighbors numbers, but I have thought maybe I should have the ones next door just in case (since we're quasi-friendly with them). 

    Neighbor is awfully presumptive, but LW could have avoided ALL of this by saying something from the jump.  On the first one, LW could have played dumb and been all, "Who's this?"  And then neighbor could have said, "OH it's Gretchen!"  And then LW could have said, "Oh I think you put me on the wrong list/in the wrong group!"  If Gretchen said, "Oh no, I meant to send it to you."  LW could have THEN said, "Oh thanks for thinking of me, but I don't need a daily verse.  Thanks." (or something along those lines). 
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  • mrsconn23 said:
    I'm a little curious about the relationship with the neighbor.  Especially since the LW used the word "neighbor" and not "friend".

    I don't want a daily text from a neighbor on any subject, lol.

    Yeah, how did the neighbor even get LW's number if they're not that close?  I don't have any of my neighbors numbers, but I have thought maybe I should have the ones next door just in case (since we're quasi-friendly with them). 

    Neighbor is awfully presumptive, but LW could have avoided ALL of this by saying something from the jump.  On the first one, LW could have played dumb and been all, "Who's this?"  And then neighbor could have said, "OH it's Gretchen!"  And then LW could have said, "Oh I think you put me on the wrong list/in the wrong group!"  If Gretchen said, "Oh no, I meant to send it to you."  LW could have THEN said, "Oh thanks for thinking of me, but I don't need a daily verse.  Thanks." (or something along those lines). 
    Bolded is actually perfect
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