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Am having a destination wedding in Europe next year, where we're paying for our guests to stay at the venue for 2 nights. To our clearly single friends we sent out the save the dates without a plus one. To provide a timeline, save the dates were sent 7 months before the wedding. However, a friend of mine confirmed her attendance and also mentioned that 'if things go well' she was planning on bringing along a guy she just started dating. This left me a bit confused as we invited her alone, and this is a guy she recently met and starting seeing.For now I have told her we wont be able to accommodate her plus one, and i'll let her know closer to the date if we can. To which she was a bit taken aback that my immediate response wasn't a 'Yes! Of course you can bring a plus one'. Her subsequent attitude has made me want to not consider a plus one for her as I thought her reaction has been very childish and immature. Am I wrong about it all? Should I let her bring a plus one 'if things go well between her and him'??
Well we do have a tight guest list, even having to limit extended family invites to some extent as we are paying for all of our guests hotel stay ( 2 nights) and are catering all meals from breakfast to the dinners at the events we are having on 2 nights. I’d rather invite family than her (unsure) significant other if it came down to that.
What I would personally find embarrassing is asking for an additional invite, when addressed to just one.In my eyes poor planning would be not inviting people I would truly want to be there on my special day, and considering the limited space constraints I unfortunately have to make adjustments like these.When my fiancé and I were dating, we were invited to DW’s without a plus one/SO invite and we weren’t offended by it. In fact we each made the effort to be there for our respective friends special day without making a scene or asking to bring the other.
If the friend was single when you invited her, you were not technically wrong. You invited a single woman because she was just that at the time.But for a DW, you really should invite plus ones for every single guest, for two reasons: 1) you're asking them to travel alone and very far and 2) you issue invitations much earlier with a DW, and a lot can change, as it did in this case. So be kind and tell your friend you want her there and she is welcome to bring her BF.