I'm brainstorming wedding ideas to try and keep my budget low but still have a lot of boozy fun. My FH and I are from opposite sides of our state and are meeting in the middle for our wedding, which means all of our guests have to drive about 3 hours to get there. The venue is in a hotel downtown in our college town with a lot of walkable bars. He has a lot of aunts and uncles who would totally party the night away with us in a drunken haze, but my family is a lot more laid back. We had been thinking about doing a late night ceremony with a cocktail reception (hors d'oeuvre's out the wazoo to fill everyone up) with an open bar. I think my FH's family will be fine with this, but I don't think my side will enjoy it. I was considering doing a simple dinner instead, with no open bar and no dancing/DJ (probably put someone in charge of an iPod for just background acoustics during dinner and our first dance song) and then inviting anyone who wants to go out to go bar hopping with us after, on their own dime. What I'm afraid of here is that people are going to think 3 hours is way too far to drive to have such a short, calm reception and have to pay for their own booze. What are your thoughts?