My fiancé and I are getting married in an intimate ceremony abroad with parents, siblings and a couple close friends (18 people total) in July.
Then in September we are planning to have a Marriage Celebration Party (that our parents want to throw for us). I am trying to be super careful to maintain proper etiquette after reading many discussions on here.
I would love to make sure I am covering all my bases in how to approach this party. Would love your advise!
Here is what I am doing:
- Being careful NOT to call this a reception, but rather a party to celebrate our marriage and have our families get to know each other
- Not having any sort of “wedding things” like cake cutting, first dance, wearing my dress, etc.
- We are not registering for gifts or asking for cash. Thinking about saying something like “if you really wish to give us something, we would love a card with a special message to read back on through our marriage.”
- No bridal shower
- The party is being held at a beautiful park pavilion, and we are catering a BBQ and providing wine/beer/non-alcoholic drinks. My question here is - would it be appropriate to have people RSVP even if it’s a party, not a reception? Since we are catering, we will need a final number.
- After reading up on the etiquette, general consensus seems to be that we shouldn’t provide save the dates because this isn’t a wedding. But I also want to give people a good heads up as a courtesy, so I was thinking of then at least sending the invite further in advance than typical if there is no STD. Thoughts?
Please let me know if I am covering my bases or missing anything else?
Thank you all!