We are getting married in early September and recently sent save the dates. Our wedding is about two hours away from everyone (we picked a location that would force everyone to travel to keep it "fair"), and apparently some people are already booking hotels/cabins. The problem with this is our venue has very limited parking, so we have booked a shuttle to transport people from the hotels (which we blocked rooms at) to the venue. My mom suggested sending the invites sooner than the standard 10-weeks so people can adjust their bookings. I am in agreement with this, but how early is too early? I was hoping to send them at the end of April at the latest. Please note that we only have the rooms blocked until 7/31, and we need RSVPs by 7/26 so we can get a headcount to our caterer.
Additionally, we created our own invites based on our sense of humor and who we are as people. I didn't want to pay extra postage for multiple cards, so I included all the details on the back. Some of the details are "inappropriate" according to traditional wedding etiquette, but our save the dates literally said, "STD - It's Forever" and we had really positive feedback from family/friends. Is it alright to just have fun with it and be blunt? We included all the important information about hotels, transportation, requirements to check cell phones during the ceremony, etc. The things I am now worried about are telling people to not bring kids (because when my partner's brother got married they relied on word of mouth and people still brought kids), and including registry information (we have no space for physical gifts at our venue and we didn't want people hauling gifts all the way there just to have to keep them under their tables all night, plus we have a honeymoon fund that we are asking for contributions to since we have been together 10 years and don't need anything physical).
Any words of advice? We're just not very traditional and want our day to be fun an quirky like we are.