Etiquette

Am I being selfish asking for help?

I’m planning to book a florist recommended by a friend. It has spectacular reviews and I loved our consultant. For 6 bridesmaid bouquets, bride bouquet, toss bouquet, 13 boutonnières (parents, groom, groomsmen), flower girl, cake flower, and centerpieces, it would cost about $850. The catch? It’s DIY but they provide all the flowers and make it a party. A coach will make my bouquet while we make the rest guided by her. I bring my girls and we can drink wine and bring snacks.

My three sisters were the first to jump in to say to do it and they’d help. My cousin (MoH) seemed annoyed but it’s ironic because her whole wedding was DYI and we worked our butts off with set up, tear down, during the wedding, and clean up! We would have to do it Thursday before the wedding so they would take time off work. But we also have rehearsal which is likely on a different day because of the venue’s schedule. I’m not the type of person who often asks for help. All other places quoted $1,200-$1,500. Is it selfish to ask them if it means time off? I need at least 4-5 girls. 

My party is mostly sisters, cousin and sister in laws. Two of them own their own business and make their own schedule, the others I know have a lot of vacation leave. I also have others in mind fo ask who don’t work a regular 9-5 if they can’t. 

I asked this on WeddingBee and everyone said I was very selfish and that $400 more is nothing but it’s a lot to me. 

TLDR: Is it selfish to ask for help if it means time off work?

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