I'm not sure if this is the best forum to post this in, but figured since I'm posting as a bridesmaid this would work. My FH's brother is getting married in October and we're both in the wedding party. My FSIL has been very clear that she does not want any of the groomsmen to have facial hair for the wedding, which several of them are not happy about. My FH at least has decided to just go ahead and shave for the wedding. I have been considering getting a fairly drastic haircut. I currently have hair down to my butt and I've been thinking for a long time about getting it cut to around my collarbone. While hair and beards are certainly different, I'm worried she'll have a similar reaction about my hair to the beard situation. I don't necessarily want to ask for "permission" to get my hair cut because I don't feel like I should need to, but also certainly don't want to cause any unneeded stress or drama. Should I just try to subtly mention that I'm thinking of getting a haircut? Should I let her know that I am getting a hair cut in the context of wedding hairstyles etc.? Should I outright ask her for permission? Thanks in advanced for any input!