Dear Prudence,
I am a 65-year-old woman who owns my own (fenced and gated) home in a tropical climate due to a settlement from a car accident several years ago. I love spending time alone working in my garden and swimming in my pool. My close friend “Linda” has been living in her daughter’s house rent-free for the past five years. Now that Linda’s daughter is selling the house, Linda has asked to move into my guest bedroom. I’ve told her more than once I don’t want to live with anyone, not even my boyfriend. We’ve been dating for four years and he only stays over on weekends.
Linda’s applied for (and been accepted to) very nice senior housing but hasn’t done anything to move forward. She seems to expect others to take care of her for free. She’s asked if she can live in a tent in my backyard, which is absurd. Recently I overheard her say to my boyfriend that she would be living with me before he does. My health is poor, and this is really weighing on me. Am I too nice? How can I make it clear that I’m not the one to take care of her for the rest of her life? Other than this, she’s a great friend.
—No Roommates