Classic Prudie: This is mind-bottling.

mrsconn23

During my six-year marriage to an amazing man, I have had a cordial relationship with his mother. I am now pregnant with his family’s first grandchild. My husband and I mutually decided that we didn’t want to know the sex before the birth. My mother-in-law was livid with our decision, even though I tried to placate her by using the obstetrician she suggested and allowing her to attend some of my prenatal appointments. She continued to bring up gender at every opportunity. My doctor’s staff was aware of our decision not to know the baby’s sex, but after one sonogram I was surprised to see my mother-in-law at the office smiling ear to ear. A few days later I had messages from family members congratulating me on the baby girl I was having! My mother-in-law wheedled the information out of the ultrasound technician, who is a friend of hers, then announced it. I threatened the clinic with legal action and found a new doctor mid-pregnancy. My mother-in-law is smug about her tactics and told me nastily that if I “still had a mother,” I wouldn’t be so selfish. (I was orphaned at age 14.) I can’t express how betrayed and hurt I am by this. My husband sides with me and we’ve made a birthing plan that includes her not being permitted in the facility until we’ve been released. We will not inform anyone of the birth until after we’re home, and for the time being, she won’t be welcome to visit. Am I being too vengeful here? How do I overcome this feeling of betrayal?

STARMOON44

Oh. My. God. Sue the faculty. Report them to the regulatory authorities. Change your locks. Block her on all social media. Never see her again. 

CharmedPam

Doesn’t that violate HIPPA laws? On the tech’s part?

charlotte989875

Report the faculty now and block your MIL. This is so beyond anything close to okay. 

I want to know what the practice said when she called them. How in the world would they defend this? 

banana468

This needs to be reported to the practice and medical board.   You need to threaten legal action.

That the H is on board is good.   They need to be quite firm that she overstepped all boundaries and betrayed any trust that they could have.  She needs to work to regain the trust of her son and DIL to have any kind of relationship with her grandchild and any future children and she owes them multiple apologies for ignoring their wishes, going around their back, asking the practice to break the law AND insulting the daughter in-law with insinuations about knowing better than her. 

I can tell you that if this was my H's mother there would be many words uttered, most of them foul and doors would be closed if the above terms were not met. 

levioosa

This is such a glaring breech of HIPAA. I feel for LW. MIL is awful on so many levels.

MissKittyDanger

Sue all them!
Clinic should be IMMEDIATELY notified and action taken against tech!

MIL is toxic a.f

drunkenwitch

This goes way beyond excited first time grandmas to controlling bitch territory.  MIL needs a very, very, very long time out.  Perhaps she can meet your daughter when she graduates from college.