Wedding Woes

OMG...This one got me banned once upon a time.

Dear Prudence, 

My fraternal twin and I (both men) are in our late 30s. We were always extremely close and shared a bedroom growing up. When we were 12 we gradually started experimenting sexually with each other. After a couple of years, we realized we had fallen in love. Of course we felt guilty and ashamed, and we didn’t dare tell anyone what we were doing. We hoped it was “just a phase” that we’d grow out of, but we wound up sleeping together  until we left for college. We knew this could ruin our lives, so we made a pact to end it. We attended schools far apart and limited our contact to family holidays. But we never fell out of love with each other, so after graduation we moved in together and have been living very discreetly as a monogamous couple ever since. I’m not writing to you to pass moral judgment on our relationship—we’re at peace and very happy. Our dilemma is how to deal with our increasingly nosy family and friends. They know we’re gay, and we live in a state where same-sex marriage is legal, so we’re getting pressure to settle down. I feel we should continue being discreet for the rest of our lives and blow off their questions. It’s nobody’s business, and I fear they would find our relationship shocking and disgusting. My brother, though, is exhausted with this charade. He thinks that if we get the family together with a therapist to talk through the issues, they’ll eventually accept it. I think he’s out of his mind, but I also want to make him happy. Is this one of those times when honesty is not the best policy? If so, how do we get everyone to stop worrying we will die alone? I’m also concerned about the legal implications of this—would the therapist be required to report us to the authorities? Could we go to prison?

—Tired of This Greek Tragicomedy

Re: OMG...This one got me banned once upon a time.

  • WHY.  Why do people ask Prudie these questions like, "Can we go to prison for this?" 

    Prudie is not an attorney.

    The rest makes me wonder what was going on with them at 12 when this started?? 
    MissKittyDanger
  • You know this is wrong, you knew this was wrong at 12. You both need to start seeing a therapist, separately, and learn how to have an appropriate relationship with one another because this isn’t it. 
    STARMOON44MissKittyDangershort+sassyOliveOilsMom
  • I could be wrong, but I don’t think a therapist would be required to involve the authorities in this case- they were minors together, it’s been consensual for both parties, etc.  Just in case that’s what stopping LW from seeing a therapist.  Bc they both need therapy, like, yesterday.

    Two of my kids are fraternal twins, and I like to think of myself as an open-minded, accept-them-no-matter-what kind of mom, but this would be a lot.  So I hardcore disagree with LW’s brother.
    charlotte989875STARMOON44short+sassyOliveOilsMom
  • I also am curious on what happened to have them start experimenting ... 
  • I want to know how this got you banned!

    But yeah, two 12 year olds engaging in incestual sex makes me think that there was some foul play involved. 
  • Yikes on bikes. And how does the one brother even think their family would accept this? 
    mrsconn23
  • I want to know how this got you banned!

    Because someone reported me for posting it and the knot gods brought down the ban hammer. 
    ei34MesmrEweVarunaTT
  • Yikes on bikes. And how does the one brother even think their family would accept this? 
    lolol bolded made me laugh
    mrsconn23
  • Oh man, this original post was wild.  Wasn't it someone who didn't understand that we were doing Prudie letters too?  


    MNNEBridecharlotte989875
  • edited November 2020
    mrsconn23 said:
    VarunaTT said:
    Oh man, this original post was wild.  Wasn't it someone who didn't understand that we were doing Prudie letters too?  


    YES!  It took me a few days to realize I was banned. I think I figured it out I couldn't see my posts when I was logged out. I created a new profile until I was unbanned.  

    So then the admin at the time found out why I was banned (this post) and then we had a whole thread about it. And the person who reported me came on and was all, "I didn't think talking about incest on a wedding board was appropriate."  They were roundly flamed and dispatched.  Ahhh...the good ol' days. 

    I still LOVE when someone thinks a Prudie letter is MY problems.  It always warms my black heart. 

    motto of this board should be @mrsconn23 has a lot of problems lololol
    short+sassycharlotte989875
Sign In or Register to comment.
Choose Another Board
Search Boards