Hello all. I recently proposed to my fiance, and we've entered the wedding planning stage. (Aiming for Fall 2022.) She has 8 bridesmaids, and I've been putting together a list of 8 groomsmen to match. I've hit a bit of a snag when making it, and I was hoping to get some opinions.
I was considering asking my uncle to be one of my groomsmen, but my aunt isn't one of the bridesmaids. (Which is absolutely fine: my fiance doesn't really have a relationship with my aunt/uncle, and I want her party to be people who matter the most to her.)
I'm just worried that including one of the pair when the other isn't included might upset my aunt/make her feel bad, which I don't want to happen.
Both are going to be invited to the wedding, but I want to make sure I wouldn't be making a faux pass by asking my uncle to be a groomsman in this scenario. I would ask my aunt to be a groomsman/groomswoman as well, but I'm 95% certain she wouldn't accept for personal reasons I don't have the right to explain to strangers. (Her story, not mine.)
Does anyone have any experience with/advice for this? Would it be best to not ask my uncle, so I don't offend anyone?