My friend John just got married to Jane. I was invited to their wedding, but Covid hit, so they postponed twice. Jane kept reminding me to check the website for updates throughout that time. When their original date rolled around (May 2020), I gave them a large cash gift. Suddenly, I stopped hearing from Jane, even though there were updates on their website that she’d normally remind me to check. I later noticed she liked: https://www.instagram.com/p/CEEuHwDAPdW/?igshid=9s1zys2zsxg0. A few months later, she posted that they saved what they would've spent on their dream wedding/honeymoon this year to buy a house instead and how blessed they are. A little later, I saw a wedding post from both of them - they’d gotten married (had a smaller wedding), and I was pretty hurt and shocked when I saw this because they hadn’t given any updates. Finally, I saw that they somehow went on an international honeymoon. It’s been a couple months since then, and I haven’t received a thank you or an update saying they’re married.
I get Covid is going on, but I don’t think that’s an excuse for his or Jane’s actions (or lack thereof).
John is part of a friend group (4 of us total), and I’m inviting the other 2, but I’m not exactly keen on spending additional hundreds on both him and Jane at my wedding after all of this.