Bachelorette Party planning

theresaanddale

I'm getting married in a year and am trying to get things pre-planned. I want to have a bachelorette party but am not sure on the etiquette. Is it inappropriate to ask my sisters to help plan one? If they want to plan it, how much input should I have on what we do?

MyNameIsNot

theresaanddale said:

I'm getting married in a year and am trying to get things pre-planned. I want to have a bachelorette party but am not sure on the etiquette. Is it inappropriate to ask my sisters to help plan one? If they want to plan it, how much input should I have on what we do?

The etiquette is that you don't plan a party in your own honor. It's rude to ask someone to throw a party for you.

If someone (including your sisters) ask you if you want a party, you're free to accept and to offer ideas for the type of event you'd like and who you'd like them to invite. (But budget and headcount are up to the party hosts.) If no one offers, no bach party. 

In general, people don't start planning these types of parties until 1-2 months in advance, and they're normally held in the last few weeks before a wedding. Don't be disappointed if no one thinks about this until next fall. You may like to plan things well in advance, but that doesn't mean other people do. 

banana468

MyNameIsNot said:

theresaanddale said:

I'm getting married in a year and am trying to get things pre-planned. I want to have a bachelorette party but am not sure on the etiquette. Is it inappropriate to ask my sisters to help plan one? If they want to plan it, how much input should I have on what we do?

The etiquette is that you don't plan a party in your own honor. It's rude to ask someone to throw a party for you.

If someone (including your sisters) ask you if you want a party, you're free to accept and to offer ideas for the type of event you'd like and who you'd like them to invite. (But budget and headcount are up to the party hosts.) If no one offers, no bach party. 

In general, people don't start planning these types of parties until 1-2 months in advance, and they're normally held in the last few weeks before a wedding. Don't be disappointed if no one thinks about this until next fall. You may like to plan things well in advance, but that doesn't mean other people do. 

To all of this, I think any planning and any parties right now are on hold.   

Unless you live in New Zealand it's so ill advised to consider events and parties until the transmission of the Coronavirus is under control and more people are vaccinated.   And while all of that is in process (and still not yet approved for kids) there are so many people who have their lives affected by the virus.  IMO, wait until things are really in motion and then if/when a BP member signals that they're open to a get together you can talk about the plans that may make sense.