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Why you should consider a first dance.

edited January 2021 in Snarky Brides
For those of you bashing on a first Dance because it isn’t professional dancers you are missing the point of why people do a first dance in the first place. I may be biased because I am a Ballroom dance teacher, but it is a missed opportunity for many people who are about to get married. I am aware that a choreographed first dance is not for everyone, but I think it is a great idea and I’m going to tell the haters why. It is NOT about looking like perfect professionals, it is not to show off, and it is not just for those with a right foot and a left foot. It is my job to make every couple feel like they can move effortlessly on the dance floor and feel good about their dance. A dance does not have to be complex to be beautiful, and it doesn’t have to be perfect to be beautiful either.

The first dance has nothing to do with friends and family watching, even though couples want to surprise them. The first dance is about the couple. Most couples who learn a first dance have a chance to connect with each other in a way that they have not yet done. They get to learn something brand new and work as a team together to create a beautiful dance. It is intimate and fun in ways that other activities are not. Again I may be biased, but I think it is something everyone should give a chance.

On a side note, I am not an advocate for the big showy wedding flash mob things. 

Re: Why you should consider a first dance.

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    Who here bashed the first dance?

    Totally with you on your last sentence though!  
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    Yeah, who bashed first dances? I think if they are too long and showy it too much but a nice short first dance is lovely.
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    Who's bashing first dances? I haven't heard anyone do that here or elsewhere. 

    I do agree with you on showy flash mob stuff, though.
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    My daughter went to a wedding a few years ago where the couple had taken ballroom dance lessons all through college. Their first dance was so amazing that the guests called out for an encore. The couple declined.

    My only objection to showcase dances is when there are so many of them (bride-groom, groom-MIL, etc.) that they go on forever.
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    The only "Bashing" I've ever heard is from so many "showcase" dances that there's no time left for an actual dance at the wedding for the guests!  Or music selection "We don't want traditional songs played!" SNS - the reason those songs are popular is that they get people dancing and having fun across the spectrum of ages...
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    Huh? 
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    For those of you bashing on a first Dance because it isn’t professional dancers you are missing the point of why people do a first dance in the first place. I may be biased because I am a Ballroom dance teacher, but it is a missed opportunity for many people who are about to get married. I am aware that a choreographed first dance is not for everyone, but I think it is a great idea and I’m going to tell the haters why. It is NOT about looking like perfect professionals, it is not to show off, and it is not just for those with a right foot and a left foot. It is my job to make every couple feel like they can move effortlessly on the dance floor and feel good about their dance. A dance does not have to be complex to be beautiful, and it doesn’t have to be perfect to be beautiful either.

    The first dance has nothing to do with friends and family watching, even though couples want to surprise them. The first dance is about the couple. Most couples who learn a first dance have a chance to connect with each other in a way that they have not yet done. They get to learn something brand new and work as a team together to create a beautiful dance. It is intimate and fun in ways that other activities are not. Again I may be biased, but I think it is something everyone should give a chance.

    On a side note, I am not an advocate for the big showy wedding flash mob things. 
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    Bashing? Who did that?

    But I also agree with your last sentence.
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