My fiancee and I are in the middle of planning a very simple wedding. To illustrate the situation for you, I have taken a job abroad, and made the decision to get married to my girlfriend of five years to ensure that she would be able to accompany me. With all of the paperwork that we need to fill out to make our move, we were left without much choice other than to hold a small courthouse wedding, and we plan to have this ceremony in a matter of weeks.
While most of our family and close friends have been extremely supportive, some feel that we are making some mistakes. As you might expect, some our family and friends are displeased with the fact that they won't able to attend an actual wedding ceremony. While I fully understand those concerns, I still feel that we are making the right choice. I took the time to look into what it would cost to hold a ceremony for everyone to attend (in the ideal world without paperwork deadlines or COVID-19), and I've come to the conclusion that we really couldn't afford it anyway. My fiancee and I are in our early to mid twenties, and we just don't have the money to sink into party planning and venue rentals.
Additionally, I've received some feedback about our intention to have our ceremony without sending out announcements with the intention to solicit gifts. Given that we are planning a civil ceremony, we don't feel like it's appropriate to expect gifts from any of our friends or family. While I certainly appreciate the gesture, we have most of the basic items we need already, and we wouldn't be able to take a bunch of gifts with us when we move anyway.
To make a long story short, I can understand some of the concerns regarding our intentions. I still am confident that we are making the right choice given the current circumstances. If anyone has any thoughts about how to effectively communicate with some of these relatives, I would greatly appreciate any feedback.