My fiancé and I have been engaged for almost a year now, but honestly did not focus on wedding planning until recently. We both went through a lot of career growth in the last year that took up our time. We’re really struggling on what we want to do. We are down to two options.
1. Intimate destination wedding
-I love the idea of basically just having a vacation with our immediate families and getting married. In some aspects I feel it may be less stress. Heck, we’re going to be there all week, we could get married on a Wednesday night if we wanted to. This also takes away the idea of a big wedding party we were planning on having, that I wasn’t necessarily thrilled about. If we choose this option we would each bring our closest friend along with parents and siblings and that’s it,
-we would do it sometime this summer. Most likely in July. This is both a pro and con. I could marry my fiancé tomorrow, but this also feels rushed in the sense that I haven’t looked at dresses, we haven’t had engagement pics, etc.
-LOCATION. I need all the help in the world with this part. We are in the Midwest but our first thought was Pensacola. That was our first vacation together and where my parents met. Unfortunately most of those beautiful beach houses book out a year in advance and I’m pulling up late to the scene. We also considered hill country outside Austin, TX where my brother lives. We love visiting there. HELP. Does anyone recommend places to have a small wedding ceremony in these locations, or any other location for that matter?!
-Reception...we have a deposit down on a local venue where we live and would most likely keep that for an at home celebration on a Friday night within a couple of months after our wedding.
2. Push the wedding off until May or June of 2022 and have everything at our venue. This option would give me more time to feel like and enjoy being a bride, get engagement pics done, etc. on the flip side I know that’s not what it’s all about though, it’s about the two of us and our marriage. While this would give me more time, it would also be a large wedding to plan and a large wedding party to maintain. There’s little budge on the wedding party size from my fiancé.
I’m not sure I’m leaning towards one more than the other. It changes by the hour. Some moments I love the idea of going somewhere and having an intimate celebration, then I freak out about the timeline and not being able to throw it all together in a short time and stress out to the point of wanting to push it off to 2022. Is this normal? Lol
I have one end of the spectrum to the other when it comes to my options and I’m lost. I would love to hear ideas, opinions and experiences and location/venue recommendations!
Thank you!