My FI's family lives about two hours away from us now, while mine lives about an hour. We are currently looking to buying a house, so our budget is very limited. The plan is to have a backyard wedding if we get the house before next year. But if that doesn't happen we're looking into having it in my hometown. I know that if I want a summer wedding, I have to start looking at booking a venue now for 2022. But then the issue becomes who's going to cover the accommodations for his family. The drive then becomes a 3-4 hour for his family to travel. While my family already lives in the area or have places they can stay at if they're coming from out of state. My family is has always been very generous when it comes to any weddings in the family. We've always helped each other out, whenever it's needed. I know my parents are going to be generously helping out as well, as this is the first wedding between my brothers and I. With just the people on my side of the guest list, it's going to be around 150-200 people.
The main issue is that I'm worried his family won't attend the wedding or his mom will try to foot the entire bill. My family is better off than his, since his side got hit pretty hard with covid layoffs, but I don't feel comfortable asking for any help from my side. We've already scratched bach parties, bridal shower, and engagement party off the list to help save costs for his family. We also aren't asking for any wedding gifts, as we both want our sides to be there for our wedding. Can anyone help with any ideas on what we could do for accommodations?
P.S our sides have not met yet, we plan on having a dinner with immediate family in summer so they can meet before hand.