Tuesday

VarunaTT

Work is trying to kill me.  I'm trying to shuffle some things around with the authority I have, but I always ultimately have to have the managing partner approve it and that's the stumbling block.  

I have therapy today.  Also, I bought a new ear cuff that I was taking a picture of.  When I looked at the picture, my normal shaved side of my head that is way too long right now (haircut tomorrow)....seems to be turning salt and pepper?!?!  I then went and plucked a few hairs and I'm definitely starting with the gray.  I'm not sure how I feel about it.  It's not negative, but it is kind of a whoa, whut?

Also, I commented to the lady.  She responded with, "You're so sweet."  If this wasn't a queer flirtation, I'd be all...yep, not interested.  But queer women are notorious for not recognizing flirtation, so I'm all I'M FLIRTING WITH YOU DAMMIT.  Also, I told someone else, I can't even make a solid commitment to a shaving club subscription right now, so IDK why I'm even trying.  And I still want to stay single until November, but I also just need more socializing in general.  So, I'll just start commenting more and we'll see how things develop.

mrsconn23

I'm back after my weekend in MI.  It was a good time.  I definitely want to return with DH.   Southwest MI is such a fun place to visit. 

I did get either food poisoning or a bad gut on Sunday night.  I was up all night and it was awful. Thankfully, the drive was only a little over 3 hours yesterday.  I'm still a little tired today.  

The school year ends next week.  I can't believe it.  I am ready for a summer schedule of getting up just in time to log-in for work.  LOL 

Back to the grind. Work can't seem to slow down.  Plus, someone just retired on Friday.  No idea what they're going to do about that position.  

MissKittyDanger

M is pissed - for good reason.

They were suppose to open up the vaccine to 30+ but they opted to do 18+ and our roll out and supply have been AWFUL.
So he didn't get booked.

He's trying again later/tomorrow.

We're going to talk to family about BK's bday party and we're not doing weekend we anticipated because of lock down, but we're going to ask how they feel because other than M - and obv BK - have their vax.
M works fully from home, so we'll see.

Personally I don't see it being an issue with my mum, her bf, MIL and SFIL but idk how BIL/SIL will feel.

Casadena

Weekend was great - my parents were here and G had a blast hanging out with them for a few days.  Last night we had a couple of friends over who are fully vaccinated and we haven't seen in a year and half.  It was so much fun - we grilled and then sat on the patio for a couple hours after the babe went to bed.  We also realized that these are the first non-family, non-school people G has met in his life.  Crazy.  

I was super active yesterday (far more than normal) and I could hardly get out of bed this morning because I was so stiff and sore.  I cannot wait to be able to work out more regularly!!!!  Need to go for a walk and stretch a little today so it doesn't linger.  

levioosa

Whew, I am tired today. My appointment took a lot out of me but at least I don’t feel sick. FI had his appointment with the surgeon yesterday too and they told him he doesn’t need follow up surgery after all, thank goodness. 

Otherwise, SSDD. Walk tonight since I’m sore and tired. At some point I need to call my mom. She sent me an email last week that was all “hey, I booked us two rooms on this date that I didn’t ask you about before hand but you’re still coming on this random trip I decided we would all take without asking you first right?” This is the second or third time she’s done this and I’m not going to be guilted into going. She planned it for Halloween weekend. Halloween weekend is one of our favorite holiday weekends to be home for. We’ve had plans for it since January. Also I have zero days off left for the year once you take Hawaii and our Yosemite trip into account. Ugh. 

banana468

@MissKittyDanger we went through a similar issue here in state.   We were supposed to be in the over 35 group and then it was the over 18 group.  It took a few days but I was lucky and got my first a week after they opened it up. 

The backs of my legs are SO SORE from all the planting I did Sunday.  I am thrilled with the results of the garden and just need to keep moving my legs.  I did another 30 minute ride this morning so I refuse to let this get me down but I was hoping that my regular work outs would make my legs hurt less this year and....they hurt the same.

missJeanLouise

Life has a funny way of working itself out sometimes. MIL texted me today that BIL is getting his vaccine tomorrow. Apparently his mother told him he had to do it so he booked an appointment, lol.

@VarunaTT why November?
Welcome back @mrsconn23 glad you had a good trip. 
@MissKittyDanger when is BK's birthday?
@Casadena I can't wait to introduce DS to my friends. It is wild that these kids have such small bubbles.
@levioosa some people just don't get it. My dad loves to do thing spontaneously and then gets butthurt when you don't drop everything to do things with him.

missJeanLouise

@banana468 they may hurt the same but I bet your recovery time is less. 

banana468

missJeanLouise said:

@banana468 they may hurt the same but I bet your recovery time is less. 

I hope so!  Either way I'll embrace this for what it is.  I don't like it but will at least try to feel like I'm doing something good.  I can tell that the core workouts I'm doing are paying off since I can keep up with what was difficult for me in February. 

Good news about your BIL! 

ei34

Sorry about the GI troubles @mrsconn23   Yay for the seeing of the friends @Casadena
A lot of my students have been off the walls.  I think it’s the warm weather.  Or maybe just a different kind of year.  We have a way to go guys, please bring it down a notch.  

I watched a TED talk I really enjoyed - Sally Kohn, Culture of Hate.  If you have 17 minutes I recommend it.  If this is a super well known talk that you’ve already seen I apologize for being late to the party, lol. 

@sh@"short+sassy" and @CharmedPam, hope you’re enjoying your trip! 

MissKittyDanger

@banana468 right now the supply is all booked for. I've got M on waitlist at 2 pharmacies

@missJeanLouise May 28th - but lock down is until June 2nd, so earliest her bday party will be June 5th {assuming lock down ends then}

charlotte989875

I’m in a weekly meeting where we’re literally saying the exact same thing that was said last week and I have very little patience for that today. 

VarunaTT

@missJeanLouise That will be a year anniversary of being single.  I've never really been single since I was 23.  When I moved out from exH, I was single for about a month (technically, I said I'd been single with a crappy roommate for 3-4 years) before I started dating K.  I think I need to learn to take care of myself, for myself, and my own needs/health before I add another person to my equation.

My work bully just struck again and I am tired of this, y'all.  We happened to be walking to the same office, in the same hallway, but bully turned into the office before me, so didn't realize I was right behind her.  She starts saying (back to me), "I hate that bitch every time I have to pass her, I don't even know why they keep her, it pisses me off that she's just still existing on this earth, breathing."  This wasn't quietly either and at least one other CW heard it.  I waited, bully turned around, and saw me and walked quickly off.  She had her mask on, so I couldn't see her face.  But I've already been to both managers.  This is complete and utter bullshit and I shouldn't have to deal with her bullshit at all, much less to this point.  I also told managers I would NOT sit in another meeting with her, since last time they all let her call me a bully, dark-hearted, and some other choice terms directly to my face and they did nothing that time either.  I also said I wanted her fired, but I'm more compassionate than that, so I'd agree to whatever disciplinary action they chose, but I expected that action.  We'll see what happens.

Casadena

WTF @VarunaTT.  That is absolute bullshit and she should be fired ASAP.  I'm so sorry you have to deal with this.  Fingers crossed it's resolved for you soon. 

levioosa

That’s absolute bullshit @VarunaTT

STARMOON44

I hope you are job searching @VarunaTT!

kerbohl

@VarunaTT Wow, that's overly excessive.  They are upset that you are alive?  How are they not disciplined immediately?  What kind of workplace tolerates that kind of toxicity?

@MissKittyDanger ... if lockdown is over on June 5th?  No, don't say such things!  I'm getting really, really frustrated with it.  Because of lockdown I ordered stuff for in store pickup at the hardware store two weeks ago, and my order isn't picked yet.  How much easier is it to just go to the store, find my stuff, and pick it up on the same day?  At least the nurseries are open, and I went plant shopping to soothe myself.  
Also, SIL asked me to come over to her place an hour away to help in the garden.  While on one hand, we're outside and masked.  On the other hand, it's lockdown and I'm pretty sure they will be policing things on the long weekend.  So ... no.  And also, I my order from the hardware store has something for her garden, so I can't really work on it if I don't have my order yet!  

MissKittyDanger

@kerbohl oh agreed! I honestly figured they'd end it after long weekend, but alas ....
We've skirted the rules a tad, but it's no one we see outside of lock down so  

MissKittyDanger

@VarunaTT wtf that's harassment! Hopefully they deal with your work bully. Unacceptable.

charlotte989875

Damn @VarunaTT I agree are you job searching and how in the world does she still have a job there??

kerbohl

MissKittyDanger said:

@kerbohl oh agreed! I honestly figured they'd end it after long weekend, but alas ....
We've skirted the rules a tad, but it's no one we see outside of lock down so  

I skirt the rules with my parents.  We got for walks and what-not, or I help my dad with stuff or he helps me with stuff outside.  Some people are really quick to report multiple vehicles though.
I was hoping after the long weekend too.  No luck!

MNNEBride

@VarunaTT - I have no idea why your co-irker has not been fired for that kind of disrespect.  They are creating a hostile work environment.  

VarunaTT

I'm not job searching.  I like this job and I make good money that I probably wouldn't make many other places.  I'm also tired of starting over at places and this CW isn't going to get her way.

The issue is really that b/c CW has been here so long, she's been able to get away with a lot of BS for years.  We've never had an official HR really, just a paralegal that was promoted over their skill set (this is so common in this field) and the previous one played favorites...CW was a favorite.  We also had no write up policies.  We do now. I just suggested a solution that I hope they accept.  

I have now offered two complaints, each time, of her behavior, which has been witnessed and confirmed by other employees.  She wasn't written up the first time.  I have said I will accept her being written up for that first time (and said I will accept a write up too, though I don't think I should have to, since I responded and handled her verbal attack professionally) and I will accept a write up for this time.  That way, if it happens a 3rd time, they have documentation to fire her.  If she bullies me again, I'll report it, 3 times and you're fired or if she gets pissed off about being written up and quits, that's also her choice.  But this way, it's doesn't put her behavior as being my fault, but rather her own crappy choices.  TBH, I doubt she makes it.

ETA:  As one of my friends recently said, I don't know how many people think they needs to play "f**k around and find out" with you, but you think your reputation for the "find out" part would stop it from happening.